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writes:question for the guys out there..if you were in a marriage or long term relationship how would you feel if your wife/partner was friends with other men? she would go out for the evening with them occassionally (on their own)when you didn't want to go with her.She would kiss them goodbye but all it ever was was a quick kiss goodbye nothing passionate,definately no sex and she came home to you every time? would you feel ok with that?if not why?are woman "suppossed" to have only girl friends when they marry or can she see other male friends? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): If you baleive she stays within the rules you outlined and it does not bother you then what does it matter what others think but my 2 pence wourth is MAN and WOMAN cannot be good friends without at least one liking the other more than they should. e.g. if you had a really good female friend which you did not fancey then she must fancey you... so if my wife had a real good male friend who she does not fancey then he would fancey her add an argument with her husband and the night in shining armour steps in to take her away....
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (27 April 2006):
 I have a lot of guy mates ,and tend to go out with them instead of girls because I don't click with girls all that good, Saying that lately I've grown bored of hanging out with the men and am starting to enjoy getting out with my close female friends.
I like to catch up with the males I know, but the male company I enjoy best is my boyfriends, he is my best friend and my boyfriend rolled into one! I've been out to restaurants with my male friends and bf is ok with it (lathough I think that when he sees them he has a go at marking his terriotory!)
What I think is interesting is that everyone says girls should be able to hang out with their male friends uniterrupted, but if it was the other way round, guys hanging out with girls I could see a lot of females becomming extremely green eyed and irrational!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): I'll be fine with that, but good bye kiss is stretching it. I'm liberal, but not that liberal... Haha... If I find that my girl goes out a lot with her male friends without me, I'll try to find out why that's the case. If it's because I am working too much, then I'll take time off to spend a few evenings out of the week with her. If I spend too much time with my other friends, then I'll see them less and hang with her more. If she plays sports with those guys, I'll take a day or two out of the week to either go play with her, or go watch her play.
However, I won't forbid her to stay friends with the guys in her life. Don't want to limit her freedom there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2006): My girlfriend has a lot of male friends and it's something I love about her. Girls who hang around with just girls tend to be quite bitchy, whereas girls who have guy friends tend to be a little more on the male wave length!In your case:If the girl has given me no cause to be worried, then I suspect it would be a case of the guy feeling a little insecure! Perhaps all girl needs to do is give a bit of reassurance and to tell the guy that he is the only one for her? :)If the girl has reassured the guy, but the guy is finding it a big problem, the girl needs to get it addressed before the relationship gets any more serious.Another reason, which is somewhat more rare, is that *sometimes* people react based on their own thinking. e.g. A guy may have a problem with his girlfriend seeing blokes because he is, in fact, being unfaithful himself. I'm sure this isn't the case though.Last, if the girl had guy friends before she got in a relationship then the guy has absoluetely no rights to stop her from seeing her male friends. Give him support, encouragement and reassurance, but if it's still a problem, deal with it more dramatically.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (27 April 2006):
 Sorry forgot to add, that I put this question to my brothers and all of them said it wouldn't be/ isn't a problem if there partner has friends of the opposite sex. They are secure enough in themselves to see that friends come in all shapes and sizes and sexes!
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reader, willywombat +, writes (27 April 2006):
I have a variety of friends and have been with my husband for 8 years. I have male, female, old, younger, gay, straight, black, white, single, divorced, physically disabled and able-bodied friends. I did not give any of them up when I met my husband and neither did he ask me too. As I make new friends I share them with my hubby and other friends and have nothing to hide. I kiss and hug all my friends because that is a good way to greet and take leave of people and show you care for them.
Dont ask for permission for your wife to ahve male friends. Use your own instincts. I think if she has agreed to amrry you and you already know her friends then you ahve nothing to worry about. She has obviously chosen you as her life partner so stop worrying.
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