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*lectricSheep
writes:Can guys be interested in a girl just because of her breasts? I feel like the only reason guys are interested in me is my breasts, like that's the only thing they see.I obviously want a guy to like me for everything that I am, not just to get with me cause of my breasts. So I want to know: can guys show interest only because of a girl's breasts.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Breasts might be the reason they are attracted to you, or the fact that you have confidence. Both garner attraction. If the guys are staying around, I would attribute it to what you have on the inside (good or intelligent conversation, a kind heart, or other attributes). In other words, the breasts might get a guy to do a second look, but it is "you" that will keep them attracted.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Ofcourse I do not know how big your breasts are, but yes, boys will be boys in that fashion. Though I highly doubt men will date you just because of your breasts.The earlier statement about 20-30 men liking you for your assets and only a couple of decent guys out there is too simplistic and stereotypical, in my opinion. Don't get me wrong, guys like girls who have atleast 'a handful' but if all they want from you is sex, they will gear it towards that. They will not put in much effort romantically because that's not what they want.Now the question is, how do you seperate the good from the bad? What I would do is atleast keep touching and sex off limits until you're positive the guy is in it for YOU. This could take a while. The guys going for the sex will soon look elsewhere and the serious ones will stick around.Whenever you feel self conscious, remember: men will always look at a good set of boobs, just like I look at a nice torso and a nice set of abs. That's natural. Doesn't mean that's all they're interested in. And ofcourse, if someone is rude, you can call them on it. I once had a guy commenting on my eyes while he was obviously staring at my chest (and I didn't even have cleavage going on). I told him: "They can't be that spectacular if all your attention goes to my chest." "Eyes are up here" works as a good reminder as well. But really, that's just for the few asses out there. Good luck and try not to be insecure.
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reader, Baby23  +, writes (18 May 2010):
Trust me I understand I am only in elemetry school and all the Boys stare at my boobs and it does feel uncomfertabale but just turn around and walk away. Hope this helped?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): You have not mentioned why you think guys are only interested in your breasts...? Because they are there? Because they are weird?
Wear a scarf if you feel conscious. I did that for job interviews so I would never feel that someone hired me because they happened to see some cleavage. Not that anyone of my bosses would have done that... but it was a doubt in my mind. I also do that when I visit some friends' place or parties.
Women with larger breasts tend to be very self conscious. They may be nice. Some men like them. But mostly they just draw attention because they seem large. Until you won't stop being self conscious about them, you will feel strange and will attract morons.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): There's a certain part of the male population that will only be interested in you for your breasts, yes. You will have to fend those off so the good guy can get through the crowd. Let say it like this, to try and put the logic simple. Just as an example here:
1 or 2 decent guys will ask you out on a date a year. A girl who's not that physically attractive (lacks the boobs or hips or hair or eyes or whatever guys around her think is hot) could get these one or two decent guys asking her out. They ask her out because they like her personality and who she is.
Now, in your case you have big boobs I presume. Guys that love big boobs get attracted to you. You still have this 1-2 decent guys in there somewhere, but you also have 20-30 guys that are just interested in your boobs.
Another girl might be very pretty, she will get 20-30 of guys who just want a pretty accessorize to bring with them to parties and brag about, that dont care much for her personality either. She'll also have 1-2 decent guys, but the problem is to find these decent guys in the middle of the jerks.
What you have to do is to say a firm no to every male you suspect asks you out simply for your boobs. You will have to say no to many guys. But then one day a guy will come along that looks into your eyes and not at your boobs, and he could be one of those few decent guys a girl meets once a year. Make sure than when he comes along, you're not already dating a guy who's into your boobs. The danger is that you will be bored with being alone and just take the best guy who's into your boobs because you dont want to wait. But if you do that, you'll miss out on the chance to be with that decent and good guy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): Yep the other people have steered you right. If this really bothers you, then cover up your "assets" with a good bra and shirt and let your other assets be out in front for a while.
Covering up probably makes you need to compromise on your style of dressing a little. But I'm sure that a lack of cleavage and curves encourages other smaller-chested girls to make other compromises in their dressing too. Most people have a few things about their body they are trying to compensate for.
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reader, ElectricSheep +, writes (14 February 2010):
ElectricSheep is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just a little note: I don't expose my breasts or anything. So it's not like I'm asking for attention by using them.
It's just that they're there, and it makes me self-conscious. I start thinking, "is this guy interested in me or just the boobs?"
I'm sure there are unshallow guys out there. I just hope I won't have to go through many shallow ones to meet a good one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): Oh quit your bragging, of course men are interested in boobs, like one of the aunts said, dress modestly and don't make them a feature and you will be more likely to meet a man who is not just ogling your boobs, but wants to see what is under there, but likes that you have enough self respect to keep those under lock and key and only someone special (like him he hopes) will get to see what is under there.
You just do like the rest of us. Weed out the shallow and salacious men and go for the Gold (I don't mean money), set your standards and make sure a man you chose will live up to your standards and is willing to step up to them instead of you living down to his low brow interest in your boobs.
Have fun, I'm jealous!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): well i know some guys who are interested in girls just cause of their behinds, so im guessing there are guys that will like you for just your breasts.
But as you said you want someone to like you for you not just your body and there are still some guys out there that arent all bad.
hope you find him :)
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reader, boo22  +, writes (13 February 2010):
 Hi, Of course some guys will be interested in you cos of your breasts.
I have a big chest and all my life I've have men talking to my tits instead of my face.
All you can do is dress modestly and don't make them a feature when you are out.
If all the guys you meet are like that, change the company you keep.
NOT all guys are the same and there are guys out there who will like you for you, and you will find them.
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