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writes:I need guy's inputs mainly. I have a guy friend and there is obviously something more than friendship between us. He currently has a girlfriend and things have been going on lately that seem to point towards them not being together much longer. The thing I'm curious about is that he goes out of his way some nights to talk to me. He gets up very early and works long days then spends time with his girlfriend sometimes, but then he goes out of his way when I know he's exhausted to just say hi and see what I'm doing. This wouldn't seem that strange except he does it in the middle of the night like 1am and 2am. I'm the last person he talks to and he usually falls asleep while talking to me. I find it interesting that he talks to me instead of his girlfriend. He spends the evening with her and as soon as he leaves I'm the first person he calls and wants to talk to,what's up with that? Shouldn't he still be thinking about her instead of instantly thinking about me? So my question is does this mean something that he talks to me in the middle of the night instead of his girlfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2009): there's no way of saying this without it hurting, but he wants to have his cake and eat it too..If you feel he has feelings for you then ask him. Guys don't feel funny about being asked unless he feels your quesions will ruin his plan to remain uncommited to you. If he stutters he's playing a game and you're his favorite toy ofthe day. I'm sorry to be so blunt but he needs to be confronted. One day when he calls just say "hold on i have a call on the other line" when he asks, (believe me he will) tell him you met some friends at work or through an aquaintance and they had invited you out and they really want you to hang out with them next weekend, tell him you didn't go this time because it required and overnight stay at a beach house or hotel at disney or somewhere, you get the picture. Another thing you can tell him is you got a call on the other line and say, "can you call me back in five mins" then keep the phn line open, when he call back don'tanswer. don't call him back that night or answer his call for at least a day.This will make his head spin. No guy wants to hear that a girl he's interested in is spending the night with friends she just met at a hotel or resort. Believe me he's going to wonder if guys are going to be there, who are these new found friends of yours, he might even say " wow, do you think you should trust these people you just met?" . You want to make him think you're living your life and he's not a part of it. You want him to think there are guys out there that will have an opportunity to rip you out of his hands. I'm a guy and let me tell you, one of the biggest mistakes guys make is feeling powerful and if he's talking to you and has a girlfriend , he feels powerful right about now. . There's a saying which is horribly true, "the one who loves the least has the most power". Who are you in ths picture. again talk to him and get afeel to see where he's at then make him think..believe me he will.
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