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writes: I'm 24 and only had 1 real relationship. I really want to be with someone but I dont know how to react to guys that well. Guys seem like they think of me as just the hookup girl and not the relationship girl. what should I do. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2006): Firstly, don't be so willing to be the 'hook up' girl. Don't be afraid to make a potential guy work his buns off for you. After all, hun...you are worth it. Believe that. Another suggestion: if these other guys are treating you as a hook up girl then they have no respect for you. I think you know this. So start anew and realize maybe it's time, to change 'who' you hang with. Guys like this don't sound like very nice people. Who needs that? Next, open up your social life and start making new friends (choose wisely!) The best thing you can do is starting showing any new potential guy in your life, that you DO really 'respect yourself' by always, always setting boundries in how he or anyone treats you. Never tolerate disrespect. Never be afraid to stand up for yourself. When you start doing this, your self-esteem will go through the roof. You could get called a 'bitch' then so be it. Just do what I do---I smile and say 'thank you'..lol Seriously, take it as a compliment when some jerk is mad because you took a stand against his bad behaviours aimed at you. When you do this, others take note of that and they realize you possess much self-worth and value on who you are. You can still be a nice, compassionate and a great person...you just have to pick and choose carefully and let others know...when they are going over the line. Don't let the fears of being strong..drag you down. Go for it, hun and I wish you luck! Take Care.
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