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writes:there is this one guy, and i've been into him since i moved into town 4 months ago... but he's stereotypically good looking (athletic, blonde hair, blue eyes,...) and i'm generally not the type guys like that go for (pretty but not exactly a size 2)... so i've left my feelings to be a sort of passing crush and nothing more. well lately, things have gotten kinda weird between us.my brother is good friends with this guy, and usually my brother just goes over there... lately he's been coming to the house see if my brother is home (even though they both have phones and can text etc). he immediately comes into the living room and sits down and starts talking with me ... i assume he's being polite, no big deal. then i'm at home and him and my brother come in, my brother suggests i go and walk around with them (small town lol) i just kinda shrug, and this guy is like "no, come on. come!" until i do. the whole entire time i was out with them (which ended up being 8 hours!) he was being "weird" we'd be walking with a group and he'd always end up beside me, talking to me. then we'd be in such deep convo that we'd end up WAY in front of the rest of the group... like 30+ feet, just us 2. even if he was talking to other people, he always looked me in the eyes way longer than anyone else. he called me out, in front of a group of people, and was like "wanna see a really cute picture?" so i said sure, and he came over and sat beside me to show me... and i'm pretty sure he lingered longer than necessary. he then went back to his seat, without showing anyone else, even though the whole time they had their attention focused on us. while i was kinda zoned out, sitting and staring at the fire, he pretended to be bugs on the back of my leg... tickling me. he did a bunch of other random things, always making me smile (of course what girl wouldn't love the attention from someone they thought was hot lol). later, after looking back, i started to think maybe he was flirting... but i didn't know. about a week down the line i was talking with my brother about how guys were never really interested in me; he told me that the day before, when i had been walking downtown and this guy was in a truck with my brother and some other guys (this guy actually leaned out the window and yelled "i f*ckin love you!!!" at me lol) he had said that he thought i was gorgeous, even though i was heavier. i was kinda skeptical, thinking they were setting me up, until the other day one of this guys' friends told me the same thing (about 3 weeks after my brother told me, and i was the one to kinda bring it up). So now i'm confused... gorgeous is a good thing, especially when he tells his friends that. but i don't know if the rest of it was him flirting or being nice. guys, if you tell your friends a girl is gorgeous (even though she is heavier), does it mean you like her? would you ask her our? was he flirting with me that night? and if he was, how do i let him know i'm really interested?thanks in advance xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): Oh yeah , he's definately into you. If wasn't into you he wouldn't have been paying so much attention to you. Don't worry about being heavy. There's someone out there for everyone. Women seem to concerned about their size in my opinion. I'm attracted to women who have alot of self confidence and are more of a total package. Just remember that you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you. If your happy with yourself all the pieces will fall in place.
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reader, adamantine  +, writes (15 July 2010):
 He's into you. And don't worry about you being heavier, it sounds like he doesn't care :)
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (15 July 2010):
 If the sequence of events is as you have narrated with no embellishments whatsoever, it certainly sounds like he's flirting with youm and not very subtly either.
Good luck!
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