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Guys: do you normally 'check out' good looking girls? Ladies: are you bothered by this?

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Question - (3 July 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 4 July 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

my question is out there mainly for the guys but ladies theres one for you to:

is it true that most men so called "check out" any girl who is showing a bit of flesh or has a perfect figure i.e big breasts and big bottom lol? is it almost "natural" to you guys for doing so? interesting to know of answers as my partner seems to think so...

also for the ladies out there... if you were in a relationship and your partner "checks out" another girl who has almost the perfect look, would it bother you? i dont know if its just me but i think that is soo damn unrespectful esp if your girlfriend is with you... am i being unreasonable or is that fair to say

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009):

some guys do, I don't. I'm not really interested to be honest, just see women as people, not boobs and butts. if I'm trying to get romantic with a girl, thats when I notice those assets, but if I'm not, then I don't notice.

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A male reader, quarky United Kingdom +, writes (4 July 2009):

quarky agony auntIt's something that's been hard coded into our genetic makeup over thousands of years-as with many creatures on this particular tiny pale blue dot.

But that doesn't mean there is more to it than looks alone-getting to know someone for who they are is, to me at least, equally important .

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A male reader, GrimmReality United States +, writes (4 July 2009):

GrimmReality agony auntGuys have that reaction of checking out just about anyone who has two boobs an ass and a heartbeat. Ever notice if you are in a business situation that guys seem to "Talk to your chest"?

Its just part of the hetero male makeup to stare at a good looking woman(hopefully without them drooling).

Is it normal? yep, for a guy.

Is it disrespectful? Yep it is.

However it seems that basically guys will not care and basically do it on instinct as they enter their 20's. But maybe giving your man a good poke in the eye or a nice hard slap to his face the next time you catch him staring at a pair of double D's might get the message across.

Of course since he is getting caught by you already, he obviously hasn't mastered the momentary look that guys use, or the "I'm staring out into space as the corner of my eye feasts upon that fine ass walking down the street...just in time to pull it together and not get busted by their girlfriend.

Some may argue that if women are offended by it that its an esteem issue, but I contend that its just plain disrespectful, especially in front of your partner.

I will admit that I am about as guilty of it as any male, but that does not make it ok.

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