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writes:Hey, quick question for the guys - what is it that makes a girl really good in bed? I mean, REALLy good? Because right now I'm seeing a guy who is AMAZING at sex, and puts 110% effort into pleasing me, it's awesome. But although my last boyfriend said I ws good in bed, I feel inferior in my talents to this guy! I don't have low self-esteem and I'm confident in bed, but seriously, I want to make it amazing for him. What can I do? Tips please!? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2009): i think the right way of doing it is 2 show him the way you are put more effort
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): Dear Poster
I know you asked the question to the guys, but I want to share this secret with you. Want to be amazing? Don't have sex; MAKE LOVE (a sensual exploration of the bodies).
Relax, be yourself and allow your heart and your genitals to talk to each other, allowing your hands to express your heart's love to your bodies, feeling and touching.
Sensualist Jonti Searll explains it very well.
"I’ve come to define sex as a goal-oriented genital activity. The goal is orgasm for at least one of the people involved, both if you’re lucky and/or know what you’re doing.
Making love is a different story. The words themselves tell us that we’re going to make something, we’re going to create it or build it, or mix the ingredients to get something more or different than when we began. And because it’s love that we’re making, our hearts are involved. Our mouths, our hands, our genitals, our bodies become a channel to express that love".
For more very interesting information and valuable tips:
http://health.mweb.co.za/sex/Gourmet_sex/1253-2443.asp
I am sure the above link will be of great assistance to you.
Best wishes; Have fun, enjoy and always keep SMILING.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (18 December 2008):
It sounds like you're turning this into some kind of contest.
Sex is a somewhat complicated activity that involves your mind and your emotions as well as your body. Like tennis, long division, or public speaking it takes practice and experience to do it well. Some folks seem to have a natural talent and need only a few words of coaching, while others must fight for feedback and work hard to improve their performance. And - more importantly - people are often very different in what they enjoy. It's a big mistake to think that what is pleasurable to some people will automatically be a major turn-on for you or your B/F.
Get copies of "Joy of Sex" and "More Joy of Sex". I think these are still in print after almost 40 years, or you can find copies on E-Bay quite inexpensively. These books are organized something like an encyclopedia, with plenty of illustrations and short articles (usually only a paragraph to a page long) about positions, techniques, problems, etc, etc, related to sex. The two of you can go through them together, commenting on what is written or illustrated and finding things you want to try. Or, take a book separately and pass it back and forth, perhaps under the pillow, with little notes like "Let's try pg 275" or "I'm in the minority on pg 83!". It'll take most of a year to really go through them - and by then your tastes and life-situation may have changed enough to make starting from the beginning a good idea.
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reader, urbanking99 +, writes (18 December 2008):
Just take your time. Talk to each other about your fantasies and desires. With experience will come more pleasures. have fun and enjoy the moments you spend together. It's not a test you don't have to score 100% each time, just put a 100% effort in each time.
Everyone is different and everyone's expectations are different as are their bodies. We all react to stimuli in differing ways.
Personally for me it's the ultimate pleasure to give a woman an orgasm whichever way I can, so long as I can do this I'm happy.
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