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*inaBeanz6
writes:So a couple of days ago I found out my friend is gay, (I suspected it though he came out and told me) But he has been dating my best friend for over a year... and he like see’s these guys behind her back and things. I have some proof on my computer about him being gay, (i found accidentally when my friend left her facebook open on my computer) and I kinda want to show it to her. I don’t want to be mean, but he’s lying to her. I don’t know what to do!
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reader, hope_i_could_help  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 I suggest you wait for your friend to tell your best friend the truth. It's their problem and they should handle it on their own. If you get involve, misunderstanding may occur between you and your friend and his boyfriend. It may worsen the situation. It's better to just support them and tell your gay friend that he should tell the truth about it.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (8 May 2011):
 It's something you need to talk to him about. Give him a chance to tell her since it is a complicated matter but don't dive into this situation head-first. Talk to HIM about it before you tell her. If he refuses to at least think about it, then, by all means tell her.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Brightstars +, writes (8 May 2011):
 Just put you in her shoes. What if your best friend knew the guy you were dating for a year? If she don't tell you....possibly you and this guy could get deeper in the relationship,further down the road, sooner or later 6 years down the line pass and they get married or have kids or move in together. Then it finally comes out some way, you would be hurt, hurt so bad. And on top of that,what if you also found out that your best friend kept this secret from you for years...remember...it becomes bigger the longer you wait. Or if don't wanna choose, then wish you never found this info out...and try to act like you don't know anything, but draw back on that..is your conscious won't forget. But i hope this helps somehow. And hope you truly find a answer.
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