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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:well i was with this guy for 12 days, however i still have feelings for him, he dumped me a few months ago. since then he never told me why we broke up or anything. everytime i try to talk to him we always end up arguing. it became really bad when he took a joke abit too far, he ended up hurting someone close to me physically. since then we have begun to get worse and we have stopped talking completely. i tired talking to him but he just tells that he doesn't want to talk to me. ive tried to make him jealous but im not sure if its working or not, my friends have noticed that he looks at me but im not sure because when i asked him if he had feelings for me he said no. i spoke to him the other day and he said that everything is in the past and to leave it, he also said that he never wanted to talk to me again, and for me to leave him in peace, well as usual we argued. we always argue, but i really want him back, i have feelings for him but he seems to not care about it, he never told me why we broke up because he said that it would hurt me even more, i know that he is not with someone else. its going to be my last week of college, and i really want to talk to him at least try and make amends for everything that has happened... but i don't think he wants to know. i don't know what to do.... i want him back... he was the one that broke up with me, but i still have feelings for him. i have only 2 weeks left in college then we probably wont see each other for a long time, so what do i say to him?? what are the signs if he does like me??
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): I'm sorry, but i think you're being immature, because you can't have him.
Fair enough you want to make ends meet, but 12 days, is next to nothing.
Just forget about him!
None of those lads are worth it
you want one who looks out for you.
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reader, WastedLife  +, writes (30 May 2008):
At this point, the best you can do is to be friends. I know it hurts, but it's going to hurt anyway. By creating friendship, there is a chance you will remember each other positively after the next two weeks, and even keep contact.
Creating jealousy doesn't work. It never works long term, and won't work at all in the time you have left. It's also corrosive to real love, and I can't recommend it at all.
There's a grief process that happens after a relationship, and it can be as anguishing as a death. You need to grieve your loss, find someone when you are ready, and if you wish, leave the door open to your ex. Deep friendships often come after a relationship, and occasionally the relationship does resume, but it's not the way to bet. It's really hard to get someone back, and even if they do come back, they rarely stay long term. Still, hope is forever, so good luck.
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