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writes:me and this boy liked each other but we werent in a relationship but we used to go out a lot and weve kissed loads and ive masturbated him. (it was his first time.) but we faded and dont talk anymore. i still really like him, im scared. he's forgotten our relationship that we had together, please help?:( Reply to this Question
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reader, iloveyou95 +, writes (16 April 2011):
iloveyou95 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou so much!
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (15 April 2011):
 You see the problem here is that you were entering into something he wasnt. You obviously wanted to do more than fool around with this person but it seems he was in it for the gratification he could get from you. I'm guessing he never indicated he wanted more because he didnt and you didnt because you were scared hed rejected you so, you gave him what he wanted in the hope he'd come to want more which he hasnt. He has therefore moved on and you havent.
I'm really sorry but I think this is going to have to be one of those painful life lesson kind of things. Broadly speaking there are two lessons you need to take - if you want a committed relationship then anything to do with shall we say giving gratification has to wait and come *after* a serious commitment has been made not be used as a way of winning that commitment. It usually wont and even if it succeeds the relationship invariably wont last because its not on solid enough grounds.
Second, and this is really important too, you need to speak up about your own feelings - if you dont, then that is another quick way to getting hurt. People cant read your mind nor is it entirely fair for you to expect them too if im honest. So, speak up for yourself and believe you deserve better; that way you will also attract the right type of person, not somebody who is just in it for themselves. Sorry, but there is no way around this one, this guy has gone and you will have to move on. Good luck.
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