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writes:Dear aunties and uncles,I met this guy at the end of March.Since then,we went out 4-5 times,before I went to my hometown for 2 weeks (easter break).We kept contact via phone,and when I got back to the city,we went out and he asked to see me the next day also cause he was leaving for 2 weeks. I offered to go to his area since it was his last day,he took me out for a drink,we took a long strong,kept hugging each other until I took a cab home...around 6 AM.Basically,he's a soccer player and the championship was over,so he was going to Germany where his family is to spend 2 weeks with them,and then come back here to train for the new game season.He has a contract of 2 more years with the team he's playing for now,however this team has been dropped from the Super league because of its finances,and he hadn't been paid in 3 months so he doesnt know if he's gonna stay in this team. He wants to find another team in the city,however,his manager is in Germany and he might find him another team...anywhere in the world.I asked him if he would want to play in another country or city,he said that he likes this city (He's originally from my country but his family migrated to Germany) and finds it hard to adapt to a new environment again. He said he's going to stay in my city,and also wants me to help him find a new apartment.So,he asked me for my email (2-3 times :p) and I gave it to him,since then we've been exchanging short emails.The "2 weeks" ended yesterday,but he said that he's eventually coming at the end of the month and can't wait to be here with me.He didn't provide the reason for the time extension.So,I just checked my e-mail and he asked if I got MSN messenger so we can talk and cam...How should my approach be on MSN? we obviously are going to talk more than we did in the e-mails,and should I ask about his future plans? Whether he talked with his manager? If he heard from his current team?I think I am going to get pissed off if he doesn't mention all this and just wants to talk about whatever.and I don't know if I should be the one asking.Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answers :)
However, I feel that we're going to get into a whole different zone with MSN, I kinda liked how the emails were a bit impersonal,they let me keep my distance from him (in case he finds a team somewhere else...)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): This is a tough one - but I feel like you have a right to know what you're investing your time in.
Since it is so early in your relationship , you don't have a right to demand answers (like why the delay) .. but you CAN ask casually, in a non accusatory manner. Make it come up in conversation and otherwise keep it light.
My boyfriend of 5 months is also away for at least 2 months and he told me 2 months in to our relationship. I also felt like you - that I didn't have a right to pry - but I did because it's my life too. and I said - flat out - "should we stop seeing each other now, or what are you thinking?". He told me he wanted to stay together - and that's what we are trying.
Good luck.
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