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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Met this guy recently and he seems to have a major thing for me and recently told me he liked me. His friends say I am his "type" physically and he is always giving me compliments etc. I told him Id think it over and to give me time. He is not my usual type (I like geeks) but very funny and witty, the class clown.However he added me on FB and Twitter etc, and I don't usually go snooping but he seems to be REALLY close with a female friend of his (he doesn't seem to use social media a lot so this stands out even more). Don't get me wrong, I have male friends who are close but they're even doing stuff like talk about which girl on the X Factor is hottest (she writes in a very OTT way, like "I'd **** Fleur East silly, Cheryl Cole is an overrated ho though. wbu hun?") and they have more interests in common than he does with me.I thought she might be lesbian, but I got acquainted with her recently as we have mutual friends and she added me on social media too (with the FB message "We both know (the guy who likes me), add me plz!") though we didn't really talk much. I also heard mutual friends talking about her and apparently she's a bit of a "bad girl" (does drugs at raves, is "one of the lads," kind of bitchy to other girls - which you can tell by her FB profile where half of it is attention seeking or rude like "My brows arent perfect, but they're more on fleek than SOME girls... #justsayin". She also has a lot of pics on FB of random celebrities she likes, she seems to have a very obvious type - tall, blond, muscular like Chris Evans - which is just like the guy who likes me).I don't really know the guy who likes me (apparently) very well so I dont want to start asking him too much about his relationship with her. But I have a bad feeling about this, I'm not even sure if they dated or something as he is clearly her type and he is introverted but flirts a lot. He also likes girls who smoke and are "open minded" about drugs, and I don't but she does. Should I say no to him? He is also a bit OTT when he jokes around/teases me sometimes. I dont want to be that person who judges people by their friends but if he is that close to someone like that it says a lot IMO
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reader, 02DuszJ +, writes (28 November 2015):
 How much do you like this guy - you say you don't know him well, and in my opinion- look at someone's close friends, cos they must be quite similar to that person in some way... She doesn't sound like good news tbh, and I would question a close friendship with someone like this... She sounds attention seeking and yes kind of bitchy, and whatever his feelings towards her are- I can easily see her making a move on him to cause trouble, he is likely her type from what you've said. If she is his close friend she'll be a small part of your life as well, remember that.I just think- follow your INSTINCTS. Think about going out having fun, meeting people, and getting your Career on track- you're probably thinking about uni soon, and once you get into studying for a career, whether you move away or not, is it worth the effort at this stage in your life? He doesn't seem like an introvert, he seems pretty vocal! My advice- IF you think it's worth the punt, tread with extreme caution, and be very careful about getting too attached, and moving too quickly into anything physical- sex for women equals attachment, not so much for boys/ men. Take care
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reader, Denizen +, writes (28 November 2015):
 It sounds as if you are only on the edge of having any sort of relationship with this man. I think it is too early to start vetting his friends. He could have a long standing friendship with this girl, and you are the new kid on the block. Just keep your eyes open as you progress into knowing him better.
You will better be able to assess what's going on.
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