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writes:There is a teacher who I absolutly love and have cared so much for since last yr. She may push me, but she cares. She isn't young, really beautiful, or the nicest, but I like her a lot- like a mother. I was in her class last year and will be again next year but this year I was in a club she runs so I got to see her a bit. Recently my bff told me that she could be pregnant w/ her bf of 1 month after being really unsafe! My friend obsessed and went back and forth on whether she was or wasn't (found out finally she isn't) and how to tell her parents. I couldn't take that crud anymore so I emailled this teacher bc she knew my bff. I went to her class after emailling a few times and she said my friend was just messing with my head. She gave me some advice from personal experience and told me what I need to hear "What can you do your bff isn't at school anymore?" At the end I explained that I wanted to talk to her bc she knows us both well and that she means a lot to me. Last year I would never thank her. She got out of her chair and said "Awww sweetie" and hugged me! I really like her so I hugged her back and am guilty of resting my head on her shoulder and holding her close- we were alone in the classroom. There is nothing sexual I just don't know if I shouldn't have hugged back so much or if I'll get in trouble. I'm paranoid but like I've read of all these teachers getting in trouble for innappropriate things w/ students. But she is married, we are both girls, HUGE age gap, she isn't my teacher atm... I just can't deal w/ the emotions about her...she's like a mom. I've never hugged her before so what I did was the most natural thing. When I saw her 2day she was really nice to me and went out of the way to stop. Ugh Idk what to do when she's never been this nice b4!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Don't feel guilty. You two shared a moment of something that everyone desperately craves - a moment of pure connection. There is nothing sexually wrong with that. You reached out to her and she responded.
The world needs more of people reaching out to each other. You're at a pivotal point in your growing up process, and she is someone you'll look back on as a profound influence on your life. Don't worry - neither of you did anything wrong.
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reader, kittykat678  +, writes (2 June 2011):
 I don't see what's so wrong about what you did I mean if no one finds out then I don't see what the problem is even if it was found out I don't think she'll get in any serious trouble if any. And what happpened doesn't seem wrong to me just two human beings expressing emotions towards one another I hope it'll stop being weird around her if you consider her like a mother fiqure what happened shouldn't make things weird in your relationship. Either way I think these feelings will pass none the less. Hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2011): Personally I don't think that you can get in trouble... Your teacher helped you through something, like any kind adult would, she kept it appropriate, and often women will show compassion with a hug or something. I don't think you should feel this guilty... she just hugged you to help you when you were upset... But you don't seem to be comfortable with it so I suggest if this is bothering you so much you reduce the amount of contact with her? Or stop spending any alone time with her. Keep all contact/talk purely school related.
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