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36-40,
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writes:HeyI have been friends with my guy mate jake for nearly ten years. He met me at some dance thing where he fixed me up with his cousin,But that was a joke bearly spoke or meet or anything. Instead jake would call me every night and we'd talk about everything, and anything.He got accused by (now x) girlfriends of his of cheating, me being the other girl!which totally not the case.He had a long term gf and I had a long term bf, but the always felt threated by our friendship. soo we drifted apart for a while. He broke up with his long term gf few weeks after I broke up with my long term !after that got a phone call every sigle day.I started realising that I think I'm fallin for him,it felt right but kept my mouth shut.I told a mutual friend, but all he was saying is that jake Said I'll always be in his life. God knows what that means! So the distance kicked in again as I had stuff going on that I couldn't speak to him bout.He landed a new job working overseas, he didn't know if he was coming back, I couldn't say good buy, but I really needed him!! But he did come back 6 months later, he was finding hard looking for a job, so he ended up working with my mum for 3 months!They'd talk about me all the time, and he became close speaking everyday, we still do. He's always sayin how I'm funny, reminds me of how I say that to him When I'm nervous. In the 10 years we've been friends we've never been drinking, now all of a sudden he wants to go!He says he's afraid of not having me in his life , If one day I get marriedGuess I need an understanding, what do you think, what would you do?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 February 2010):
You're just an emotional rock to him. That's all. You represent something that is safe. But even if you were with him, he' live this life. Don't live for this other guy, you need to move on from him.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (1 February 2010):
 He thrives on his unstable lifestyle and hopes you are the only stable thing in his life. Guess if you got married to him he would still be in and out of your life and say "I don't want you to leave me, we've known each other forever, I don't want to lose you." That's just the impression I got from your description of him. You two definitely have the sparks but is he allowing you time so that you could know each other better?
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