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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 months and its gohng great we have so much in common we both have a child from a previous relationship and they get on great too, he spends most of his wk with me because he works nearby and on a wk end he has his boy and hes got his own place and tends to stay there with his son cos its easier. And we go when we can too. He treats my daughter like his own and there bond is becoming stronger. Its done my daughter really good as her own father doesnt care! Ive been through a abusive relationship and its taken me alot of time and counselling to get my head straight and for me to be with someone now with what ive been through is a miracle! I do love him and he lover me. There are two big problems though. One is he doesnt think he wants anymore children he says he doesnt know why he just cant see it at the moment, were as I really want a proper family with someone I love which I havent had before, also he lives half hr away from me and he says he will never move, I can understand why cos its a big house way bigger and cheaper to rent than mine and hes got it for life, plus his son lives half hr in the other direction and he doesnt want to be any further away from him he is an amazing dad and has him every wk end. Hes says bout the future he wants me to live there. But I just dont know if I could live my family who live round the corner, id have to change my daughters school and she would be devasted and her dads family would! I just dont know what to do! Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2011): Are you kidding me? Only 30 min away and you are complaining? I travel one hour 15 min one way everyday and never complained. I don't know if you were raised as a princess but honestly 30 min is nothing. It's not really a big problem as you put it.For wanting another child with him, you should know him longer than 9 months. He is wise not to have a child with you now because he doesn't know you well enough. Sadly you didn't see this. Good luck.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (20 June 2011):
 i think 9 months is still early days. it is not worth uprooting and changing yours and your daughters lives for a relationship that may not even last, sorry, just saying - don't rush to to ANYTHING until you are sure this is the real thing!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 June 2011):
 I agree that a 30 minute trip in this day and age is NOTHING. IF you are not sure what to do, then do nothing yet. 9 MONTHS is not a lot of time yet in the span of life...
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