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writes:Hi there I'm a 16 year old girl and last weekend it was my friends field party. I got really drunk and ended up getting left with a boy (from my year) who I didn't know very well. He made me feel really special and held me gently and kissed me (with tongues) it was my first kiss. Now I feel awkward. I haven't spoken to him and we've both avoided eachother and the worst thing is everyone saw us all over eachother and now everyone at school knows because it has been spread around. What do I do!?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2014): Maybe just go up to him and say something like "Hey i hope things aren't awkward between us" and just see what he says and take it from there. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2014): Just walk right up to him and say hello! You were a little nervous to talk about the party. Then take the conversation from there. You were brave enough to kiss him, be brave enough to talk to him!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2014): Thank you for your help. I have definately learnt my lesson! But how should I start a conversation with him?
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reader, Mark1978 +, writes (25 June 2014):
 Great advice for Cary grant and wiseowl.
You need to be more sensible in future. Lots of lads will take advantage of a one girl of 16 who is drunk. Its not hard to make a drunken 16 year old feel special, and to take It further, but you don't want that happening to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2014): Oh, don't worry about it. It will all fade-away over time.
Now you've learned a lesson, and will be more responsible about drinking. It was only kissing, and gossip about it will get stale; and nobody will really care anymore.
Don't avoid him. The best way to handle it, is to just speak to the boy. Let him know that you feel awkward about what happened, but he doesn't have to avoid you. Gossip is only juicy, when the people gossiped about are upset about it.
If no one sees you acting any differently, then it becomes no big deal.
If you're going to do something so grow-up as drinking; you have to be on your best behavior and drink responsibly. You can embarrass yourself; or someone bad could take advantage of you.
Gossip passes over like a strong wind. It sweeps over everything, stirs up the trees; then suddenly it's quiet again. Don't feel ashamed to talk to the boy. What you did was naughty, but it doesn't make you a bad girl.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (25 June 2014):
 Something very similar happened to me, although I was a bit younger than you. I was at a party with there was quite a bit of alcohol available. There was a girl I scarcely knew, but we ended up cuddling for quite a while in full view of everyone. I was over the moon, as I wasn't the type of guy that girls had much interest in. Naturally I approached her at school the next week. She was kind, polite and forthright, her message being "I hope it was a good night for you." She made it quite clear that it was a one-off, not going to happen again, but also no harm no foul.
If you don't want anything more to do with him, then be prepared with that sort of response for when you do see him. If you are interested in more, then a happy, flirty "that was fun" is all you need to say.
Above all don't show the world that you feel ashamed. Project confidence, even if you don't feel it. You can't help that it's spread around, but if you don't seem bothered by it people will soon forget and move on to the next 'scandal.'
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