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*zabella637
writes:Hey everyone i need a little help, my co-worker and i used to be the best of friends we were very close and at the time i was with my boyfriend who is long distance. me and my co-worker got really close and one day at a co-workers house we had a little too much to drink and we made out. After a while me and my boy friend broke up and me and co-worker started getting closer and closer to the point where it seemed like we were together. However, lately we have drifted a part and i think its because ive gotten to clingy. Since i have feelings for him i drove him away by being too jealous and needy. Now me and him arent even talking besides work related. Someone please tell me what to do to get him back, how to play it. I know i have to stop being jealous and ill do that but what to do for him to come after me. Thanx
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 Hi, Sorry to hear his. How are you getting on with your situation? it must be very difficult? Natmariexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): I would treat him professionally every time you see him: kind, upbeat, and business only. He withdrew, so all you can do is just go back to normal. Don't expect him to come back around because you will get disappointed. But do expect yourself to just accept it was a temporary fling.
Act like it never happened, and just be professional.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2010): Back off and keep your cool. Retain your self-respect, here and if he doesn't go in pursuit of you, again...then let it go because, hun, he's likely just 'not that into this'. And why try to restart what is supposed to be a mutually respectable relationship with him in control of your emotions. That would be very unhealthy for you. So kick the jealousy--it's unattractive, get your self-worth right back up to snuff and let him chase you down, for a change. You don't have to totally ignore him but you have to show him that you have enough self-respect that you won't go after him, like a lovesick puppy..that will only make you look desperate, all over again. Be agreeable, while having your own strong thoughts and opinions, be polite, be classy, be funny, be sexy, but let him make the first moves. Show him your your self-sufficiency; high self-esteem; let him see that you now believe in relationship equality and your own personal power. Do that by having outside interests, friends and a life beyond your world with him, which is so crucial. You can't go wrong and if he doesn't spot the 'treasure' in you, then cut him loose. He's not worth it. Good luck and be strong.
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