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writes:i'm not sure if my cousin fancies me or not. we were at a family party recently, and i asked him to dance with me. while we were dancing he said " do you have a man in your life ? " and i said " no " , then he said " no ?! " and sounded surprised when he said it. he also said i had good moves on the dancefloor !. later on, at one point, he was stood behind me and he was leaning against the bar, as we were stood near the bar having a drink and chatting to some people. i'm not sure if that body language means anything. he told his mum that he had asked me if i had a man in my life earlier on too , and about when he said i had good moves on the dancefloor.he also gave me a kiss goodnight, and seemed to do that slowly and stood near me for a while until he left.what do you think ?.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 It is hard to say about the body language having not been there. I would send a private message like I detailed below. Test the waters before you go professing any attractions. Be wary of what it could do to your family as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): also, do you think i should send him a private message, or leave a comment on his facebook page ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): hi again, dirtball. what about the other things he said, and his body language when we were stood near the bar ?. he wasnt stood like that the whole time, just some of the time.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 September 2010):
First cousins is often pretty taboo. I think it is well within the realm of possibility that he found you attractive. I think his shocked reaction to your answer about being in a relationship is evidence of that.
Honestly, if you don't know eachother that well, maybe you should send him a message saying that it was nice seeing him at the wedding. That you realize that your family hasn't been that close, but seeing him made you realize that you wanted to change that. This way you can hopefully get to know eachother and see if there is anything there to build on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): oh and yes, i do like him and want him to like me, but i'm not sure what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): Thanks for your reply. We are distant cousins. I mean in where we live, which means that we havent seen each other much in our lives, but we are first cousins. His dad and my dad are brothers. Before i saw him recently, i hadnt seen him for 6 years .We live in different parts of the country. I sent him a friend request on facebook too, and he has just accepted it, but i'm not sure what to say to him. his mum also said that i looked beautiful and she asked me if i had a boyfriend after he had been saying that he asked if i had a man in my life, and i said no, and she said i should have a boyfriend.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 September 2010):
Maybe. How close of cousins are you? Often family won't be viewing you in a sexual way, but I've been on this site long enough to know that it works the way you're thinking pretty often too.
Do you want him to like you? Who knows, he may have been talking to his mom about that stuff because she suggested he ask you out. It all depends.
For example, my family used to think it was cute to try and set me up with a cousin. She and I had no blood relation and were the same age. We were always partnered up at weddings and such. If you're in a similar boat, what's the harm?
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