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anonymous
writes:Hi um recently I've been talking with this guy and he is in my science class. I've known him for two years now and were friends. Not close but were friends. And recently we've gotten much closer than ever. It started over Christmas break. He texted me and soon after a few days we started texting everyday from almost the entire day. We would even stay up until 3 in the morning texting each other. And about a week ago we made some plans to go to his house and do oral sex. (in the text messages we've sexted.) so I agreed and it's supposed to be this Friday. I haven't been pressured into it at all. He's even said if you aren't up for it then we don't have to do it. But I still said I'm fine we can do it. Now here's where I'm confused. I feel like he has feelings for me because just last week he said I was beautiful and cute. And then just last night he was complaining he was tired and I told him to stop texting me and to go to bed but he said he wanted to talk to me... To me that's a major hint. And he made a light hearted joke towards me and I pretended it hurt me and he said he loves me so he would never say that and mean it. He also texts me at work when he's not supposed to. Also he said to me he always wants to talk to me. And today he wasn't at school so I said I missed him and he replied saying he missed me too and that he loves me. And through out the entire day today we've been trying to get the other to confess we like each other but clearly we've been beating around the bush. Do you guys think he likes me. My friends have said no one foes or says those kind of things to you unless your dating or are pretty much brother and sister. So please help I'm lost. And we talk like this when were together as well it's not just over text.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 January 2012):
 Honey, please read the answers from Miamine & ChaliceODamnation and I mean REALLY read them, because they both hit the nail on the head.
Sex isn't like playing tag or Nintendo. And yes ORAL is SEX, whether you like it or not.
The guy wants to USE you. It's not LOVE. Not even LUST, it's using another person pure and simple.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (24 January 2012):
 he is telling you what you want to hear. after he gets what he wants ,and gets tired of you he will be off to the next girl. he is telling you everything you would like to hear because he wants sex. i am afraid you will be the one ending up hurt in the end. it will start with a blowjob and then more, and when he is finished with you he will move on to another girl to use. boys will talk, and give love to get sex, when a girl is willing to give sex to get love. real love waits !!! in the end you will be the one used , rejected .
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): All those sweet words he is using is just to think he is really into you - when in fact he justs sees you as a conquest!
I suspect that in a couple of weeks maybe, you will be posting on here asking for advice because now the guy is bragging about how he got oral from you and making you look like a slut..
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reader, Ciar +, writes (24 January 2012):
 I wanted to give your guy friend some benefit of the doubt, but after reading Chalice's response I have to say she sums it up perfectly...
'He doesn't see you as a beautiful young woman that deserves to be honoured, cherished, loved. He sees you as a mouth to masterbate with.'
A guy who had a real crush on you would be too nervous and too eager to please to be setting up oral sex dates. Getting so intimate so quickly means he isn't worried about impressing you. The fact that he isn't forcing or coercing you doesn't mitigate it. That he would even suggest it speaks volumes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): I was your age and thought oral was ok. The boys I thought I loved didn't have much use for me after awhile though and especially when I would refuse sex. I made a mistake by trying oral too young but I was wise enough to wait to have sex with a guy i loved. Trust me if this guy really likes you he won't ask again. He'll wait until you're dating and commited to each other before moving further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): I think at this stage, just focus on getting to know each other, continue texting and maybe start dating, and let things develop into a nice healthy realtionship. Try to avoid sex for as long as possible, at least until you are legally allowed to!!!! You don't want to be taken advantage of, and teenage boys, not to be sexist or anything, do tend to say absolutely ANYTHING in order to get sex. Literally anything. They will promise to love you and think nothing of it again after sex, and be surprised when the girl gets upset (not all guys, but this happens often enough) You never know, he might go bragging to all his friends right after, and you could have your whole school know about it. I would love to believe that this is a nice guy who has a huge crush on you, but the truth is you can't really know someone after a couple of weeks of texting, and it is very, very important that you look after yourself, your mental and physical health, and keep yourself safe. Please be careful, and consider things (even if you have to make a pros and cons list) before you rush into anything that you can't take back.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (24 January 2012):
It is far too soon to be declaring love and planning oral sex dates. He's obviously interested in you, but getting sexual at this point will encourage him to be interested in only that.
If he likes you that much he can take you out on a real date. Go to the cinema. Go out for lunch. Go rollerblading or whatever it is teenagers do.
You don't know him well enough to know if he's trustworthy and you don't want details (or worse yet pictures) of your oral sex date showing up on Facebook.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): My Young Fellow Canadian Queen.
He doesn't see you as a beautiful young woman that deserves to be honoured, cherished, loved. He sees you as a mouth to masterbate with.
He doesn't like you for you but likes that you can be of use to him. He doesn't even care that doing such an act will hurt you and destroy your self worth and self esteem by serving his selfishness.
This is not kindness, friendship, nor love or acceptance.
I'd tell him he has two darned hands and he can be satisfied with those and to piss the HECK OFF!
If he liked you for you and wanted something serious and long term, he could be a young Canadian Gentleman and avoid the sexting and false expression of Love when there is no REAL basis of such a declaration.
Amazing what Players/Charmers/Users/Abusers will say to lure in their prey and take from their prey what they want.
Block him from your phone, avoid such sexting with any other young man.
The error that many young women and women with low self esteem commit is that they will rely on sex to get a mans attention/affection.
An Honest, Loving Worthwhile Man does not need such enticings. He is joyed and bowled over by a woman being a woman and all her love and kindness and friendship that she offers. A Worthwhile Man is more than willing to bide the time when you and him feel the love, trust, and friendship is based on a solid, loving foundation before venturing into the sexual intimacy arena.
You are way too young to even be having sex btw.
What does Mom and/or Dad say about this?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (24 January 2012):
 Nope.. when guys love you they ask to be your boyfriend. Guys that ask you for blowjobs think your stupid and easy.
Haven't you ever watched the movies.. Happy ever after with prince charming.. he usually says "I love you will you marry me.".. or "your so beautiful and wonderful, I can't live without you" what he doesn't say "hey come and suck me off and give me an orgasm". Only guys that say that are men who have money and are talking to whores.
Doesn't sound like love, it sound nasty, tacky and cheap.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 January 2012):
 he's telling you what you want to hear so you will think he likes you so you will give him a blow job
DON'T DO IT!
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reader, Temiade  +, writes (23 January 2012):
 Is this the lines of an actress from disneyland or the true mind of a girl who think oral sex and text messaging 24/7 is Love? Wake up from your world of fantasies! You are a divine creature with treasures that is not meant for all tourist. If you give him oral sex today what will it be tomorow? Anal? Before you know it your dignity is gone and your site open for every new boyfriend to browse!
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reader, KittieS +, writes (23 January 2012):
 My dear lady,
You say he tells you he loves you then you say you have yet to tell each other you like each other?
Honestly, you need to think here... You need to be dating first, there is so much more than just sexting then jumping into oral sex. There's the coffee or diet coke, the getting to know each other face to face, followed by that wonderful first kiss - then you move at your pace and learn about each other.
This is all way too quick too soon
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reader, uroboros +, writes (23 January 2012):
nope, but he likes your orals.
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reader, Xx-Scorpio-xX +, writes (23 January 2012):
 I would say not to do sexual stuff unless you are in a proper exclusive relationship. It sounds like he could like you, but could just be trying to use you for easy oral? I would be wary...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2012): you're too young...
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