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writes:I started seeing this guy about 6 months ago who now my boyfriend of 5 months. I have had seriously 2 and 3 year relationships but I have never felt this way about anyone before. I truly believe that even after going out with him for only 5 months, he is the love of my life. The only problem is, I feel like maybe I love him too much. Sometimes it feels like our whole relationship depends on his mood. If he's happy, we're both happy, and if he is in a bad mood, we both are, which I find kind of unfair. I am absolutely crazy about him but I feel like maybe he takes advantage of the fact that I would do anything and everything under the sun for him. Whenever we fight, I am always left to pick up the pieces no matter who's fault the fight was. I just feel like I give a lot more than him.He can get really mean when we fight, but normally when we hang out he is the sweetest guy ever, he always tells me how much he loves me, how perfect I am and how lucky he is to have me. Sometimes I feel like he has split personalities.Once, I tried talking to him about the whole thing but when I did, he kind of ignored it and said he only acts like that because he's not good with the "relationshup stuff yet". I am the second girl that he has fallen in love with. He has had a lot of girlfriends but non were really serious until he met me. Is it possible that he really does not know how to act because he is not used to being in a relationship? Or is it more an excuse than anything? Is it possible he will change since we've only been together for 5 months, or maybe this is just a lost cause? I love him very, very much. I am just beginning to think that maybe that is not enough :(. Any ideas guys? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2009): Im in the same boat but the only difference, my guy never says he loves me never says he is in love with me. I heard him say he cares once in our 5 months but he openly says he love his ex like one of his boys. I don't think its going to change and he does sound alittle bipolar like my guy could be. I wish you luck on that one as I need the same.
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reader, bobbles32 +, writes (26 March 2009):
 Sounds like a guy I used to date! Turns out he was bipolar. Maybe you should read up on the condition, or even depression, because it sounds like he might have that.
If you feel like you're giving more and he's not giving enough back then eventually it will fall apart. You need to talk to him about your feelings. It doesn't matter if he's "getting used to relationship stuff" he should still have respect for you and not expect you to do all of the repairing after an argument. He is being selfish, I wouldn't put up with it..again.
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