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30-35,
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writes:I have liked a guy for about 4 months now, and he likes me back and so I expected the relationship to progress into dating. However, last week I found out that he also likes another girl. I confronted him about it (as nicely as possible) and he said that he does, and he doesn't know what to do. Therefore I told him he needs to make a decision on where his feelings lie or else it isn't fair on any of us. He said he would do that evening, and that was two days ago. He also said he would tell me what he decided. Should I continue to give him space or should I ask him to find out what his decision was? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): Sweetie, he made up his mind already. If he had chosen you, I'm sure he would have called but he didn't. Have some pride and leave him alone. By calling to find out you're appearing to be DESPERATE, and you're not. He likes another girl, that's okay. Get over it, in time you'll like another guy too.
I don't want you to be desperate, have some pride dear. Calling makes you desperate. Don't chase him, leave him alone.
Good luck dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): I know you probably have heard this before. But you are so young. And things change everyday at that age. But, I will give you some hopeful advise, coming from a pretty in touch 40 year old. Begin this process with making your decisions instead of waiting for a guy to make them for you. It becomes habitual as you get older. You wait for a man to determine if you are worth it or not. Atlease that's how we receive it sometimes. But as young ladies and women we need to inpower ourselves even when it hurts (i am talking to myself too, when I say this). So my suggestion is not to wait for him to decide. You decide to just be friends, the truth is if he goes to the other girl, mostlikely it won't last anyway. And, it will give you time to check your emotions. In most cases when our emotions are not involved we see the person for who they really are, and not who we think they are.. Trust you will get through this, but start inpowering yourself now. So you won't have to learn how to do it at 40! Good Luck.
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