Why do men do the things that they do?

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

Ok, this is my dilemma. I have started dating a guy earlier this year, we have known each other for a while we play sports together at our job. Things were going great, we both were remodeling our homes and he is good with a hammer so he really help me out at my house, or set me up with connections who could do the work. He always said he wanted to take things slow and he had trust issues. Well, who doesn't have trust issue's? I was all for taking it slow but in the same time I wanted to make sure we were on the same page. In the beginning he would sleep in my guest bedroom and as we spent more time together, well you know the rest. He would call me all the time. He asked me to work out with him, but I said no, at the time because it was just so new. I didn't know how I truly felt about him. Well anyway. He really started to withdraw. I found out of the blue he was going to have a vasetemy procedure. I convince him not too, because I want children one day. So he didn't have one, but, he has this thing about time, he so worried about taking his time. He wanted to play two sports he works over 70 hours a week and he has two children that he hardly see's in another city. So we had conversation about this. Back to the matter at hand lately he is really being distant with me. He absolutely doesn't call me, but he will text me majority of the mornings, and say goodmorning, he did that for about two weeks, until the text came that really made me cry. He said he needed to come get his stuff. He had some clothes and mechnical equipment from the work he was doing in my house. Oh, I stop responding to his emails earlier that day and then I got the text that made me cry. The first text was at 6:42am. He works long hours. So of course I am thinking, he is trying to let me know he is thinking of me. He doesn't ask for sex I just get that one text. I have decided not to respond to his last message, really because it just hurt. I felt it was over and I my emotions just were out of wack. I called him and he will pick up his phone, I believe its just been once I called in the 2 week frame, because I wanted to give him some space. But I am confused. He dosen't want to talk to me, but will text me (and I mentioned to him before don't change because your mad at me.)so i get these good morning texts most days, he doesn't call me. I sent him a text that said I missed him and he never responded. I was pissed. But, yet he still texts me good morning. Why, is he trying to keep everything so confusing. I would think he wouldn't do anything but ask for his stuff back and keep it moving. Oh I have stuff at his house too, like a rug, and screen door, and he has the key to my house. Should I not give him his stuff back until I get mine. I really don't know what he wants to get from my house it could just be his tools. He is cold on the phone, so I just simply don't get men. Can someone help me figure this out. Because it does hurt and he just will not communicate, i asked him if he was mad at me and he said no, but i could tell that wasn't true. I don't know what I did, if anything at all. Men. What do you think his problem is?

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