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writes:Please try not to judge me...I give the impression that I am interested in one thing, and one thing only (sex). Or, so I'm told. When I do things with women, I fully intend to pursue a relationship afterward. I don't consider myself a whore, but its not uncommon for me to get some sort of action on weekends.The women I do things with tell me that I better still talk to them afterward... then I call... we hang out, they show me off (I'm no Brad Pitt, but I honestly, without trying to be conceited, am a good-looking man) and then dont talk to me anymore. Whats going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): Ok I know your being honest in your question here so I’m going to return the favor and be straight with you too,
So you sleep with a girl you do the descent thing and take them out afterwards great, but are you doing this because you want to or just to be noble?
If it’s the latter that’s nothing to be ashamed of because no matter which way you shape it it’s a one night stand really isn’t it? Before you got to sleep with her chances are she looked more beautiful and mysterious and you took the trouble to get to know her? Afterwards theirs nothing to chase after really is there?
Because great looking guy you may be but do you see how the focus is on you again? and these girl’s probably sense this that you feel like your doing her a favor and she’s sensed that your interest in her has wavered so she’s walked away pride in tact to the Man who will focus on her, If you do want a relationship you should find one with someone who will keep her knickers (panty’s) on lol until you know her better that way chances are you both wont be as hurt,
Good luck in life and love,
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): I think they discover that you are 'cocky' and run a mile. Girls like to feel like the special one in the relationship not like they should be grateful they have got you. Maybe they discover you have been round a bit and thats what puts them off, knowone wants a player.
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reader, rcn +, writes (29 October 2007):
 You need to change your behavior. Going out and getting some weekend action, I don't know how big your town is, but the town I grew up in, word gets around real quick. People who'd go out every weekend, would quickly know who are the weekend lovers and who are not. Those with those reputations usually don't get people to take them seriously when looking for a relationship.
A personal example: I was asked at a bar once, why I wasn't hitting on the women. She said she'd never seen a male so well behaved. I told her it's simple. I have respect for everyone at the bar, and didn't want to wake up to "someone" I wouldn't expect a relationship with and I wouldn't want them to wake up thinking the same thing. I choose not too date people from bars. For me to do things under the influence is a form of disrespect because of how personal will in disrupted under the influence.
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