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writes:Hi I was wondering if other girls feel like getting fingered hurts. When I get fingered the faster my partner goes, the more it tends to hurt. I'm a virgin and wonder if that has anything to do with it. This is the third person I've been with who's done this. It just hurts and makes me stop them. Do I need to suck it up or is this normal?
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reader, advicegiver +, writes (15 September 2009):
well I must say that I dated someone that loved to 'finger' me too. At first I was uncomfortable with it cause he too would speed up and stick more fingers in then I could handle; but I told him if we could take it slow and I enjoyed his fingering, but if he would not be so aggrissive. So Thats all you need to do. Just be honest and if he doesn't respect your wishes... is he really worth it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2009): it does hurt in the beginning, but once you relax and wait a while, plus you need to be in the mood. once that happens, trust me it will feel great and you'll start to like it or even love it lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): first of all, u need to no what u like. get into the mood one night and explore urself! the whole night u should spend to satisfy ur need.when u no what u like that u go and talk to ur partner. or u can just tell or show him while he is fingering u.me and my boyfriend at first didnt have a problem, but after a month he started not hitting the right spot, he went to low, so i had to go and show him where i wanted his hand.so do the same and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): I'd Say it depends on who does it honey, because ive been fingered by a few different people now, and some of them have been great and some were basically shit because it didnt satisfy me at all. It just hurt me like you said and i had to say stop. So don't feel like its just you. But it could have been the fact that i was tense maybe, so try and relax and enjoy the moment. Try not to think about it too much sweet.
But when a different guy did it to me i didn't ask him at all to stop, i was like carry on haha. Maybe your'll get used to it.
But i think sometimes, lads don't really know what they are doing and tend to do what they think is right. They think the further up they stick their finger or the faster they go the better but thats not always the case ha.
I was in a situation once where it hurt me because he was going really fast so i asked him to stop and slow down. so he did and i enjoyed it sooo much better, he went fast sometimes but not for long.
So jus tell your partner how you like it. Ask him to be more gentle with you, untill you get used to it and then ask him to increase the pace and see if you like it. If not tell him that. Be honest with him, he will probably appreciate you telling him because this can make him better at it.
I hope this has helped you sweetie :)
And goood luck!!
Remember: try and relax and enjoy it - dont think about it
xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): Sometimes if he uses two fingers it hurts me too, or if he goes at a certain angle it hurts, but after a while, the faster he goes, the better it feels.. You should ask him to go a little slower and just use one finger. And remember to relax because when you're all tense it's not going to feel very good!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009): From my experience especially guys dont no what there doing and think its like sex which is why they think faster and harder the better which is'nt always rite. Just tell your partner that it hurts and guide him into how you do it so it feels rite and comfortable. Not all girls even feel pleasure like that and prefer clit stimulation.
Hope this helped :)
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