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writes:If something happened between two friends of yours but you in some way had some involvement in it, but aren't sure if one of your friends are annoyed at you for it. Does these actions say that they are....I briefly saw my friend back at college a few days after this incident happened and she didn't say much to me, it was short answers. Basically i got the feeling she didn't want to talk to me. In fact, today i saw her again and made small conversation, normally we talk quite a bit and have banter but she hardly looked at me when she was talking and didn't say much like she usually does. There is definitely awkwardness or tension between us now and i don't understand why if she was annoyed why wont she just tell me? She still smiles at me sometimes so i don't know if she would do that if she was annoyed? But I asked her if she was okay and annoyed at me and she said no it's fine, i'm not annoyed. Does this mean she is but doesn't want to admit it? Because things don't feel the same between us anymore, i still get the impression she doesn't want to be around me or talk to me!?Girls do you think she is annoyed at me? And if she is why wont she just come out and say it! Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella  +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Girls often use this as 'code' for the fact that they are annoyed but they do not want to reveal this and do not want a confrontation. They just want to back off for a short while until they can forgive you.
Continue to be pleasant but don't push it.
When it seems natural to ask her to join you at something, be it attend something, go somewhere, or even share a meal then suggest it and maybe expect she will say no the first time. But be patient and the friendship will no doubt survive and re-establish. When the trust returns she may be willing to open up to you on why she was so upset.
Good luck with this.
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