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writes:Okay so hi everybody I'm back with yet another problem ..All my life I've been very weary of boys because of a bad past which I would not like to go into. This has obviously taken it's toll on my social life. I have a close group of 4 friends who I love loads and have a couple of male friends who I talk with a lot. Here's the problem, I've never had a boyfriend.. My first kiss was with a girl at a sleepover when I was about 7 or 8 (I've always been very mature and knew what I was doing), I haven't talked to the girl since primary school. From that point I've always seen myself as bi-curious. No one else knows about the kiss accept for two girls who were suspecting we were kissing on the top bunk which we quickly denied. Back to my problem, because I've never had a boyfriend people are now suspecting I am a lesbian.. And these were other close girlfriends who were spreading this rumour around that I had lesbian sex with an older girl who wasnt even real. It really got to me because I dont get how these people can just come to the conclusion that I'm a lesbian, they have no evidence what so ever!(they don't know about the kiss because we swore never to tell anyone because it would ruin our lives as she now has a boyfriend)Does anyone have any ideas on how to cope with this situation? I'm not the type of girl to go out with someone just to make me look better as a person so I'm not going with somebody? If your still reading this thank you for staying with me, And thanks in advance if I get any answers ! =] xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you girls, you've really lightened my mood an helped me out it a hard time, I'll deffinetley be having a go at the sarcastic approach(it made me giggle haha), hope you girls have a great day and thanks so much for the help ! =] xxx
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Unfortunatley some people have nothing better to do than make up rumours or take about other people and at your age sexulaity is always a very common rumour.
Im so glad you are a strong and mature enough person not to feel the need to get a boyfriend just because of these silly girls.
I guess that best thing for you to do is not to rise to it, dont let anybody see that its has bothered you and if anybody does ask you about your sexuality then you can put them straight then.
Another option is to ask the girls ehy they lied but that can end in arguing so you should think carefully before doing that.
Your clearly i very switched on young girl so just dont let it bother you, you'll come out better in the end.
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reader, Ima FreAk! +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,
People are stupid for spreading rumours anyway but it's the way of life.
I think that you should use sacarsm! Like veryyyyy severely because it will mock them for example if someone goes to you is it true that you had a sex with a lesbo than you say ofcourse! (in a cheery tone) yhhh I mean it was great I mean I definitely had sex with my imaginary girlfriend we had sex in the park, in your house everywhere! BUT ONLY DO THIS IN FRONT OF A CROWD! Otherwise peopple can twist the words.
Be really sacastic it will work because it will get to the point that people are spreading nasty things you shouldn't let it get to you.
You were small when you had your kiss and girls kiss girls but unless you feel something tingly than your not a lesbian! Find a friend you can confide in and you don't need to worry about what people say about you because there is a reason why people you hate don't end up in your future!
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck and fight the arseholes!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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