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writes: I'm 26 plus n my girl friend is 22plus we 've dating getting to 4 years now,each time she pays me visit she refuse me to touch her breast,boob,kiss she prefer hug. The last time she visited me i tried all i could to get her to have sex wit me she refused. I asked why she said it fornication and she does not want to get pregnant now. i told her i will use condom to prevent her from getting pregnant she refused.she felt bad and i plead with her that if i don't love her I would not have sex with her since then she refuse to pay me visit please what do i do and does she love me.
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reader, hardnut  +, writes (5 March 2013):
I married a virgin and was not a virgin my self. It ended in total disaster when she had real sexual problems. I have a son and daughter, I hope both know how sex works before marriage. It sounds like she wants to be married first. Only problem is knowing what you are getting. She could be a disintrested cold fish, could be hot and enjoy sex. from her actions now, she is not a sexual person. Decide is this is what you want for a life time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2013): It seems like she does not want to have sex before being married (fornication is premarital sex and is a sin in many religions.)
If you want to have sex with her, i think you will have to marry her. You have been together for four years. You should know by now whether you could spend the rest of your life with her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 March 2013):
 She may love you.... but it's certain that she ISN'T going to put out for you... Decide if you're content to wait until she's ready to do so (put out).... or, if you'd prefer to hang with a girl who is a little looser in the
$-x department. Your call....
Good luck...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 March 2013):
Well, it seems obvious that she doesn't feel comfortable going to see you when you're going to spend the whole time trying to push her into doing something she doesn't want.
You should be embarrassed for treating someone you care about that way, and if she wants to ever see you again you'll be lucky.
The correct way to go about this would've been to make your move and when she told you no to have respected that. Then you could have had a conversation about when she may be ready (marriage, a few months, etc) and then decide if you're willing to wait.
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (5 March 2013):
 Uhm yeah . . . First of all have you any idea what fornication is?
Its sex before marriage! She doesn't want to fornicate.
It doesn't mean she doesn't love you of she won't have sex for you, seems like she is just trying to abstain hence the no touching of the boobs and such.
She won't visit you because she knows you will try continuously to get her into bed . . . Which she doesn't want. Try listening to her instead of trying to jump her bones. Be respectful or atleast try! Don't give her any reason to_??° second guess being with you which is probably what she's doing right now. Don't force for Sex. NO MEANS NO. If you don't respect her boundaries then you can always leave and seek what you want but remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
LISTEN, DON'T RUSH AND FORCE THINGS ON HER!
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