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writes:Hi guys wow I missed this site, glad to be back again I happen to have a relationship issue with my girlfriend, thing is she doesn't trust me at all, always pick a fight and gets angry for no reason to, I give her permission for going through my phone and still look for ways to pick a fight. I don't like fighting but I'am afraid one of these days something bad will happen and when that happens I feel that I know what steps she's going to take. I'am tired of people not trusting me can you guys please help with advise please. Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2014): There is a reason why she is unable to trust you. I was in the same situation as you, but as the girlfriend who couldnt trust her man. For me, it was because I knew him as a friend before we began dating. But then he would lie about things and i wouldnt care too much because he was just a friend. When we started dating, it obviously became an issue. I would always be moody or try to pick fights with him. I would constantly question him about things and if he ever spoke something that he had told me differently before, i would use thay against him and call him a liar. The thing is, even though you let her go through your phone, thats not enough to satisfy her. You need to sit her down and ask her exactly what is bothering her. She may be thinking that you let her check your phone at a time that is convenient for you (after u have deleted any calls, txts, pics you dont want her to see). Im not saying you r cheating on her, but usually thats what is implied when a phone issue is involved. Regardless, if she isnt able to come out and tell you exactly whats on her mind, then she is only making things worse for bot of you. Most importantly, sometimes the things that bother us women could be somewhat embarassing for us to share (like telling our man that we dont trust him bc he checks out other women). So, if/when you do talk to her, calm her down and let her know that youre all ears and willing to answer her questions, no matter how stupid they may sound. It might make her feel better! Hope i helped somewhat!
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