A
male
age
30-35,
*ianireland
writes:Hi, I am seeking advice in regards to my girlfriend. I am Irish and 21 and she is Spainish and 26.We have been together for a year, and I moved to Spain with her three months ago. Seen that the economic situation is shyte at the moment she failed to get a job here again and has returned to Ireland as she was offered a job, I have been left here alone in her town in the back end of nowhere for a few weeks till she gets back (its been three weeks now), with limited knowledge of Spainish. I decided enough is enough I am going back as she also asked me to return as she misses me and we can plan the future from there. She recently moved into a house with four other Spainards (a week or so ago), three males and one female, she claims her room is shit and has leaks everywhere and all her sisters have gone over for a holiday.She has let her sisters sleep in her room, and she informed me that she is going to sleep in own of the boys rooms whom she has just met. She claims there is a matress on the floor and she will sleep there or maybe in the bed, I said well why dont you let your sisters sleep there? No real reply as such. Now I wasn´t implying sexual behaviour would occur in the room as we have an open and trusting relationship, but she then goes on to say ´´ their is no sexual attraction(why bring this up?) between any of us and then procedes to say as followed, (this is here exact words)´´i mean, we are here watching a movie and i can lie my head in my housemate shoulderis really softand does not mean nothingis just more closewarmu guys dont do thatso ryan sorry to trying to make u angryi love you´´ her English isn´t perfect but come on now...what am I mean´t to think of that, as I am here alone and she off getting cozy with some fella she just met, why cant her two sister stay there, why just there,there is meant to be plenty of fucking sofas and plenty of matresses. She says us north europeans are cold...but I wrote to her back in a later email (so I would say anything out of order, or too bulid an agruement up) saying, imagine the tables where turned, you would feel strange now no? I am thinking does she think she can play me for a fool cause I am younger, think that I am guilible, or is it cultural? (I dont think after a week of me moving in I would be lying in some girls bed when I have a girlfriend watching films all cozy). She said come back and you can live with me but the room is small, I buy my ticket and she then says two days later, the room is shit, I dont think you can stay, so I have given up everything here, and have to move in with my 90 year old grandmother....misleading No. I have always trusted her, and I at least like that she is open and honest, but is that not bizzar?, her exactly words as such? I´m a firm believer in guilty until proven and I wouldnt have minded that much if she stayed in the same room, but her choice of words is pickling my mind! Any advice, her single mother recently died and she has had it tough and has taking her fustration out on me, I have bit my tounge out of respect, but know this makes me think ´whats going on?´´ she and I are close as hell but I´m doubting a bit...am I just parnoid and lonely or as she says, we do this in Spain it means nothing... but this guy is ment to have a girlfriend whom recently visited...but still with my girlfriend lying on his bed , with her head against his sholder watching a movie etc this guy is surely gonna get some ideas and maybe her too! Any advice!
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