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writes:Sooo my girlfriend gets pissed at me when i yawn or stretch when im on the phone with her. She says im getting annoyed and bored with her when i am not at all!!! And another thing is she will say baby? And ill say what? And shes like u dont need to be sooo rude!!!! Ughhhhh this bothers me sooooi much!! What do i do?!?!?!?!?!?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): Sounds to me like your girlfriend is suffering from Princess Syndrome - needs constant reassurance that she is more important to you than anything else, and that you are hanging on every word she is saying or about to say. If you don't like her being so needy and lacking in confidence, sit down with her and discuss it properly. Are these long phonecalls? If so, fair enough you yawn and stretch - if not, then maybe you need to seriously ask yourself if you want to continue your relationship with her, because then you sound like you are just bored when on the phone with her. But if they are long chats, then tell her sorry but you are a normal person who occasionally yawns and stretches when on the phone for a long time. And then every time she starts her whining, end the call with "oh sorry, I was enjoying talking to you but it's been a long day and I'm tired and I don't want to upset you by having you think I'm rude when I yawn and stretch, so I'd better go now and get some sleep!" Do this every time and Miss Needy will soon get the hint if she wants to have long chats to you!
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (20 August 2011):
 That's pretty bad for an over reaction. Explain to her that you aren't bored with her, it is most likely caused because you would sit in one spot and talk to her. I yawn while working out and moving, it's just your body needing an extra oxygen boost. You can't really be expected to stop. If she can't understand it then I think she isn't ready to come down from that world she is caught in and have a relationship with a human.
I think this may be a time to look at the relationship and see if this unreal expectation she has of you is present anywhere else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): Some woman will call anything that undermines their sense of confidence (and often mistaken sense of confidence) "rude."
I've noticed this a lot too. I've experienced the same thing myself when a female workmate(who I didn't like much) coyly asked me in front of my coworkers if I liked another coworker (and personal friend of mine) more than her.
It's a strange question to ask...I suspect she wanted public affirmation that she was liked better than someone else...I think she also got a thrill out of trying to make me uncomfortable. I I told her, "Yes, I do prefer her company to yours." She got uncomfortable and asked me "why?" And I told her calmly because I didn't like the way she treated me or the other people we worked with. She left the group to go to the bathroom after announcing out loud to everyone that I was of course I was: "being rude." That's personal example from my life. I'll mention the Christine O'Donnell interview that happened just this week... a politician walks out of an interview because she thinks the valid questions that make her uncomfortable are "rude." I think it's total bullshit and it makes me mad that women do this so frequently. I don't like it either.
I suspect your girlfriend has some anxiety about whether or not you care about her. She's likely reading too much into your tone or lack of tone. If I were you, I'd have a face to face conversation with her. Your girlfriend is not a child, nor is she royalty. If you care for her, explain to her that your stretching or yawning doesn't necessarily you're disprespecting her...it could possibly mean that you're tired or didn't get much sleep the night before. If you have to walk on egg shells all the time, you don't want to be in that sort of relationship.
Sounds tough. Good luck.
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reader, Kyle007 +, writes (20 August 2011):
Well, you need to either
1) Stop yawning and stretching.
2) Stop seeing her.
Just decide which one is more important to you.
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