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writes:My gf is giving me hrt attack, she said she is pregnant just bcos the condom broke when we were havin sex.But after 3 weeks i found out she was lieyin.What should i do? Is it a sign that she wants to break up? And should i leave her
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): If she lied it means you should leave her, end of story. Not something to joke about and it signals that she is willing to be deceptive to you about pregnancy in general.
And another thing, don't keep having sex with her whatever you do. (Yes that's so obvious that it insults your intelligence. And yet we have all met some guys that are actually that horny and stupid.)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 November 2010):
To be honest, if she was lying, I'd run a mile. She may have thought she was pregnant and maybe she made a mistake. But if she said she was pregnant and lied about it, just run.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 I agree with chigirl on this one, its not funny to joke about something as serious as that, i understand her maybe that she wanted to test you but after a minute or two she should have told you, you are right not to talk to her, this might teach her not to do something like this again, its unfair on you. Yes its up to you now were you go from here.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 November 2010):
 Alright, if that was a joke then she has a bad sense of humour. It is up to you if you want to stay with her or not, but that is a perfectly good reason to break up with her. Some things you just don't joke about, it was really not good of her.
However, if it was a one time thing, and she is young and doesn't know better, perhaps this was a good lesson for her and she wont do something similar again? It's up to you to decide, you know her best. There's a huge difference between joking for 1-2 minutes about something like this, and letting the "joke" go on for weeks.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (9 November 2010):
Are you sure she lied and that she wasn't just scared she could be pregnant? It takes a while to be able to test if you are pregnant or not. How long from the point where the condom broke and until you figured out she wasn't pregnant? How did you find out she wasn't pregnant, did she tell you herself?
If you are certain she lied to you about being pregnant, you should leave her. You shouldn't accept lies from anyone, but in particular not about something as serious as a pregnancy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe ws definitely lieyin, i found out cos she said she was going 4 pregnancy test, i left her 2 dress up & i said am going 2 follow her 2 d hospital cos she have been complanin of somtins goin around her stomach & her breast becomin soar & painin her.
So then she told me she was jokin & was jst tryin 2 test me.
Bt am stil angry & hav not talk 2 her 4 2 days.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 November 2010):
Hi maybe she thought that she was pregnant, when the condom breaks it is natural that a girl is going to get scared that she is pregnant, how did you find out she was lying? Maybe she was just scared.
Erm no this does not mean that she wants to break up, she obviously got a fright that is all, you need to talk to her and ask her did she lie to you or was she just scared that she was pregnant. You need to talk to her and ask her why she would lie about something like that, because at the end of the day you are going to find out in 9 months if she was lying. Maybe she wanted to test you to see how you would act on it, to see what you would be like if she did fall pregnant.
Its sounds to me like there is a communication break down between the both of you, you need to sit down with her and talk to her and see why she felt the need to lie to you.
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