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writes:Me and my girlfriend are going through a real rough patch at the minute, i found phone calls and texts to her ex on her phone bill, but she said he was pestering her and she was telling him to leave us alone, this phone call lasted about 38 minutes, but there has been little ones here and there. This happened 3-4 weeks ago, now when i said i want to go round there or ring him to see whats happened, she says "no i shouldnt as it would make things worse" i really dont know what to believe? Should i go round or ring up to see what he has to say? Or is she being defensive hiding something?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Unless she accidently left her phone on or off the hook then 38 minutes is a very long time to simply tell someone to get lost.
Have you confronted her about why the first call is so long?
I personally think ringing him up and asking him is a bad idea. Because firstly it will pee off your girlfriend and secondly he will probably make you angry.
Talk to her about why was one of the calls 38 minutes long, feed off her body launguge and if you feel she is acting dodgey or something really isn't right or her answer is more of an excuse, that is when i would ring the ex and only do it if you absoultly have to.
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (14 November 2011):
She's potentially straying because she is not happy in the relationship. You need to go back to making it more fun, making it so that she WANTS to be in a relationship with you.
If you were a great boyfriend, she would not be looking for attention from her ex.
The ex is not your problem, the state of your relationship is your problem.
Fix that, and your girlfriend will return. I wonder if however that is too late. You've already destroyed the trust from your insecure snooping. Can you pull it back? not sure about that. It's in your hands though..
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