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writes:My girlfriend of 2 months is a really great girl but sometimes whenever we go to sleep together i feel alone. It's really hard for me to explain but ill try my best.This will maybe sound weird but i love to cuddle with my girlfriend but she doesnt and it really bothers me. She also told me that i was to good for her and that she was affraid to abuse it, she actualy told me to be more harsh on her. And she said that she's the man in our relationship and im the woman just because i show my emotions because im not afraid of showing them. She's a really closed person, its hard for her to show her feelings but meanwhile she is an easy talker and always is fun to be with. Now ever since i started to give her less attention and kind of stopped asking for cuddles, she was asking ME to cuddle her because she missed me. we also had a fight once and i thought she was afraid to lose me because she said that she loves me for being me but i think i changed because of her. aargh im sorry my english isnt really great and its hard for me to explain everything. i hope you can help me out. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2012): Thank you guys for your reactions,Yesterday i had a conversation with her, she asked me why do i like her? and i told her that she's beautifull and that i love why she can be herself where ever we are.Then she said that she didnt understand why i want to be with her. She said that im to good for her and that she's not good for me. She also said that she trusted me 100%, that she loved my smile and my eyes. I sometimes have thoughts that im to good for her, and that i want to break up. But when i think about the time we had and how i love to be with her and miss her all the time when were not together i just cant break up. but yesterday when she told me all this it started me to think about everything and actualy to break up. i'm really feeling sad now because i dont want to break up but i think it's the best for us. but now i just can't imagine a world without her. its really all hard for me. what do you guys suggest me to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2012): Maybe your girlfriend has been hurt in the past and is very afraid of being to attached to you. Also she may feel the need to control what happens in your relationship. She probably do not want to be vulnerable to you so soon because your relationship is new. Everything take time just continue doing what you do and treat her well.She will eventually come around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): Maybe your girlfriend has been hurt in the past and is very afraid of being to attached to you. Also she may feel the need to control what happens in your relationship. She probably do not want to be vulnerable to you so soon because your relationship is new. Everything take time just continue doing what you do and treat her well.She will eventually come around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): Any time a woman tells you that you are too good for her it's time to move along.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): There may be some serious underlying issues. Maybe she has abuse issues. Or maybe she has some sort of traumatic stress issues dealing with neglect or something. Im not a psychiatrist. But what i can tell you is be yourself. Be the person that you are and if she cant except that, then you need to talk to her about that. Get to the root of the problem and if you can convince her that you are not some good among men and "too good for her", then maybe she wont need to be neglected in order to start showing affection. If all else fails, i hate to say it, but there is nothing wrong with moving on. its a part of life my friend. I wish you luck in your relationship.DG.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): AW, well being a women i can why she is being flippy floppy, meaning she wants you to not cuddle her, but when you stop she wants it. Then when she wants you to change, she feels guilty and doesnt want you to change just cause she told you to. Do you kinnda see a pattern there? were when you show her attention or lisen to her she doesnt want it but when you stop giving her so much attention and let her be the one to do it, thats what she likes. She wants you to let her chase you, if that makes since? haha women are very confusing we say we want a sweetheart, but really deep down women want a stong ( mentally stong) minded male, that doesnt chase to get are attention, but us to chase to get yours, am i making sence yet? aha bottom line of what im saying is dont stop showing her attention, but dont show so much attention cause that makes her push away, there has to be an equal ballance to her trying to get you attention and you trying to get hers.
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