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writes:My girlfriend of over 2.5 years told me last night that she loved me but she feels like she can't love me forever.. sure we've had problems but we've always persevered and only actually broken up once and only for a few weeks.. what do I do... Reply to this Question
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reader, cat lady +, writes (6 January 2011):
 We can't LIVE "forever" either but that's no reason to just kill ourselves, is it? Tell your girlfriend her logic is faulty. There are NO guarantees in life! We can only do our best to continue on with the time-honored virtues of faith, hope and charity. All the mightiest heroes in history trusted in what they could not see and trusted themselves when there was no evidence at all to convince them they could prevail. Point this out to your girlfriend and make her put her cards on the table like an adult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): its really nothing that you can do. Keep your love strong. Just keep communicating and doing everything to try n keep the relationship.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (5 January 2011):
There really isn't much you can do unfortunately; this is all her perception and her decision. Next time you two talk about it, which I recommend you do, I'd urge her to remember all of the great memories you've had and remind her that every couple will go through hard times. For a lot of people our age, its common to constantly think the grass is greener on the other side. Instead of accepting someone else's faults, they turn them into a problem that forbids the relationship to progress. Their focus becomes what the relationship isn't rather than what it is. In the long run, this perception of hers will be detrimental to your relationship, and there isn't much you can do to help her see things your way. If she for some reason doesn't think its meant to be, its only up to her to change her mind and see what you have, not what you lack.
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