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writes:My girlfriend is depressed. She has no idea what she wants. I ask her if she wants to breakup and she doesn't know. I try to support her and stay positive but I get one word answers, and sometimes it feels like she doesn't even want me around. I talked to her today and told her how I felt. How, it hurts me to see her so down and that I can't do anything about it because she needs to help herself so I'm wondering what do I do?? How can I best support her if I've tried to be nice, and tired "tough love" and neither have worked?I love her very much but its starting to put a strain on me. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009): The best thing you can do is try to persuade her, when she is not depressed, to do something about the depression. She could see the doctor and get referred for counselling, improve her diet, take more exercise. All of these would help, but when she is depressed she will not be able to face doing anything.
Depression attacks your self esteem and your motivation. Try not to take it personally.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (10 June 2009):
 only thing you can really do hun is leave her be for a bit let her have some of her own time to herself let her gather her thoughts up.and think on everything she has rushing around in her head.just say to her look i love you but i'll leave you be until you sort things out because it's upsetting me that i can't help when i really need too.then you just give her, her time and space alone and then she'll come back when she's feeling better that's the best way to be there for her to support her through this difficult time.i hope this helps hun.keep your chin up and head held high :)x
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reader, mon66  +, writes (10 June 2009):
be patient she is in no state to make any decisions about your relationship. If you keep pressing her for an answer you will get the one you dont want. Keep loving her and just give her some space till she is a little better. Its hard and it may get harder but if you love her as you say you do then just give it time. Find things to occupy your mind so you dont dwell on the problem.. Sorry if it doesnt help but thats what i was told about my other half just give him space
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