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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey. I've a girlfriend and we've been together for almost 5 months now. Recently, we fight alot. Thats because she cant stop talking about my past. I used to date guys and even done 'it' with them. But like I said, thats my past and I promised my girlfriend that I will change. I asked her to help me get through it and she agreed to help. But everytime we fight, she would bring up the subject of me being gay, told me to go back to my ex boyfriends and I dont like that. She doesnt trust me and even deleted all my social accounts like facebook and twitter(etc) so that I dont talk to guys especially my guy friends. I just dont know what else to do or what to say to her anymore. I love her but she doesnt understand me. What should I do or say to her to make her stop talking bout it and trust me again?
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (29 November 2010):
She has major trust issues and it's not your fault. The fact this has escalated in just the five months you have been together shows that this relationship isn't meant to be.
it's time to move on and find someone more suited.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 November 2010):
This is beyond you just having been with guys in the past. This is about her, and it's her problem. She clearly has a huge lack of trust in you, and she's becoming far too controlling. At 5 months, she should not be like this. It's totally unacceptable, and it shows her up as someone who really shouldn't be in your life.
There's no trust, she throws in your face that you're gay and to go back to your ex boyfriends, she's taking you away from friends and has deleted your facebook and twitter accounts - ALL IN FIVE MONTHS!
Straight up, this won't work. Inside 5 months, she's shown herself as someone who simply cannot deal with this situation. You've tried everything, and all she does it cause you hassle. She's destroying who you are, because she can't handle what has happened. Granted, at first, it might have been hard. But the point of two people coming together is that they work through problems, that they love each other, that they respect each other and trust each other. In 5 months, your girlfriend has shown she can do none of this.
Get away from her. No woman or man is worth this much hassle and pain.
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