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writes:Hi everyone. I am seeing a new guy and we have slept together once, thing is he's dropped a lot of hints that he wants me on top next time. I'm really worried as its not something I've ever been good at I can never seem to get a rhythm and my thighs tire quickly I'm hoping some of you will have some tips. I care a lot about this guy and I want him to enjoy it as much as possible. Reply to this Question
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reader, ladyO83  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 hi! I always had a problem with getting to tired by being on top.. i actually found that instead of siting on him i would sit in a squatting position so i can move up and down with my legs...and i do it reverse cowgirl..i dont get as tired its more comfortable and he seems to love it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2012): I felt very self-conscious about being on top as well, and I always avoided it. But with my current boyfriend, I just decided to do it when I felt the urge. I did it with confidence, and it was fantastic!! It has now become my favorite position. So my advice is to just go for it, be confident, and just do what feels right, and whatever feels good. What feels good to you probably feels good to him too. Oh, and don't move too quickly or haphazardly...methodical, yet natural movement is your best bet.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 January 2012):
 For most women it's not like in the movies at all. That's beyond exhausting. The easiest way to do it, imo, is to lean forward and put your hands on the bed (or couch or whatever) so you can use them and that should give you enough leverage to move without exhausting yourself. Another way to do it is to lie flat on your stomach and have your legs in sort of a frog position on either side of his thighs, sort of like upside down missionary. There's no propping up and you can use your lower legs to slide yourself around. Again this part is just my opinion (and one of my best friend's) but I think that second one I described creates a much better sensation. Plus there's a lot more skin on skin contact.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): You need to google some sex tips OP or maybe watch some porn where the woman is on top. The action is in the hips (in the easiest versions) OP not the thighs, your thighs should not really be getting that tired from it because they're not supposed to be doing much of the work. Plus you should be using your arms as leverage too. It's not done like it is in the movies OP sitting straight up and using your thighs, that's only really done in movies so you get to see the actress naked in the shot and it looks hotter but I don't know many girls except the most athletic ones that can do that for any length of time.
If you watch how a professional porn star does it you'll see the easiest ways. You'll also see varying the position slightly will work different muscles so it's a good idea to switch without breaking your rhythm. Most importantly though the idea of the girl being on top is that the roles are reversed and she's become the dominant one using our penis to get off. The idea is that you're in control of the motion and the pleasure, so it's important you focus solely on getting as much pleasure as possible for yourself while in that position. That's what gets us guys off the most about that position. We get to sit back and watch the woman use our bodies to go wild and pleasure herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): If you care about him a lot, why are you rushing the sexual aspect? Your questions tell me the main focus of this budding romance is sex and when that happens, sex just doesn't lead to commitment.
I would take a step back and let him enjoy dating you like taking you out and trying to win you over to be his girlfriend instead of trying to win him over with sexual positions.
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