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writes: A male friend I have been seeing each other for 2 years. He has told me he loves someone in another state. They have been communicating for more than 5 years but she is committed to her family with obligations. The have been intimate three or four times during this time. He is on dating sites and that is where we met. Our relationship is comfortable and intimate. He visits me in my home and I in his. He recently let me read a communication he had with her stating that he is moving on with his life but they continue to communicate. He tells me I mean very much to him but will not make future plans until he can look me in the eye and tell me he "loves" me. I see other gentlemen friends but he is the one I think of when I look into the future and would want to spend the few years I have left with him. Am I wasting my time with this man? He calls regularly and emails me often. I have taken several trips with him and we have both enjoyed them very much. Please advise me.......should I wait or move on?Thanks,Daisy [Mod note: Poster's age range is 65+]
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (14 January 2012):
It is always good to share your problems with others, there is always someone on here to help you whenever you need it. Don't forget that.
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reader, DAISY373 +, writes (14 January 2012):
DAISY373 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the good wishes. It feels good to share this problem with someone.
Daisy
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (14 January 2012):
I hope it all works out for you in the end and that you have a happy future Daisy, all the best.
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reader, DAISY373 +, writes (14 January 2012):
DAISY373 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you ladies for your answers to my MOVE ON question. I will take each answer into my considerations for making a decision. I'm at the "can't see the forest for the trees" stage with this situation. Each answer makes sense to me.
Daisy
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2012): depends on what you want. if you're happy to have his companionship exactly as it is now then continue to see him. But if you want "more" from him i.e. commitment, then you should move on.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (13 January 2012):
Two years is a very long time to wait for a commitment from someone. You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. Explain to him that you want to be happy now while you can and if he is not going to be serious about you well then maybe you are better off without him. Talk to him and just ask him to be honest with you.
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