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writes:My boyrfriend of 5 months told me the other day that his friend came on to him and kissed him but he pulled away. They were both drunk and he said it ment nothing. As he is 2 years older i was always curiouse but i trusted him, he said it ment nothing and he totlaly understood if i finshed him but i took him back but am worrid he will do it again, as i cant go out for 2 more weeks, he says he wont ever do it agen What do i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): You really can't do much because what's done is done and you can't undo the past. He did what he did and clearly that has changed the dynamics of your relationship as can be expected. So you have "taken him back" as you say and of course you still have doubts and uncertainties about what really happened and about the future of your relationship because deep down you can't think of any good reason as to why he cheated or how it led to that. In fact, it sounds like he cheated just because an opportunity came up. So what's to say that if the same opportunity came up in the future he wouldn't roll with it as he did before. So your doubts are definitely logical and that is why you are having a tough time putting this behind you. It will probably always be an issue in the back of your mind. Obviously we all want to be in a relationship with that special guy who would turn any girl down out of respect and love for us. And there are definitely guys who would turn down any girl for you. Not all guys are cheaters. This guy just didn't have enough willpower to do it. I mean if she really did lean over and kiss him and he pulled away, then there is no reason for him to feel guilty or think you have any reason to break up with him. So the fact that he does feel guilty and thinks you may have a reason to break up with him is kind of showing his guilt right there. So there is probably a little more to the story than you think. Look all I know is that if you want to be with him then you have to forgive and forget and you have to trust him again. If your logic is getting the best of you then you should break up with him and find yourself someone who has a little more drive for you.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (1 February 2008):
 This happened to my sister. Forgive him, if he does it again though, like Waterloo Sunset said, dump him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): It is very early into your relationship and they were drunk and he promised that it will never happen again. So let it rest, try and put it behind you, but if anything like this ever happens again, then get rid.
take care
xx
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