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writes:Hi cupid,This girl told me she liked me by saying that as long as I'm at her party than that's all that matters. So because I liked her as well I decided to ask her out. We went to the cinema and for something to eat. She was really quiet whilst we were eating and i was just trying to keep a conversation up. During the film I wanted to put my arm around her but she was leaned fully back and the seats were too high and I couldn't hold her hand cause she kept both her hand on her stomach close to her. After the film she was more talkative. She said she enjoyed the film etc. and then I found myself asking her questions about things she likes. On the train home and when we were waiting she was really quiet again. She started looking at her phone and texting I think. We said goodbye and then hugged. Is she telling me something or was she just nervous?
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Hi
she probally dont know what to say, as I said nerves lol, give it time, time will only tell, and if no then well at least you gave it your best xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): It could be either really, she could be nervous or she may just have felt awkward and didn't want to be there.
Cinema is worst idea for a first date OP. Don't do that again. I know lots of people think it's cool and all that but sitting in a dark room for 2 hours not being able to talk and with all the awkwardness "should I put my arm around her" kills the mood. If she was nervous then she would have been even more nervous sitting in a dark room with you hoping you don't try and kiss her or something.
Really cinema is the worst idea for a first date.
First dates are about putting the other person at ease while you get to know them, not putting them on the spot like you do in a cinema. There really is nothing worse when you're nervous because you have to spend 2 hours there still feeling anxious about what's going to happen. Besides cinema dates aren't for watching movies they're for getting it on.
Let her off for a little while and let her contact you next.
In the future don't go to the cinema for dates until you've already reached the point of being able to kiss her and hold her freely. Otherwise it's just awkward.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 How old is the girl? And has she been out on other dates?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi guys thanks for the advice just one more thing i texted her this morning "good morning :) you ok? have a good day at work xxx and she hasn't text back at all and i sent it at about 8 this mroning and she has been on her phone as she posted something on fb?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): Nervous and shy maybe?
Personally I think texting whn you're on a date is a little rude but apart form that it could just be nerves.
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reader, Problem.helper +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Well from all this it seems that she's not that much into you. BUT she could of been nervous or something, so you can ask her out again and see what the response is.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Don't give up yet. Maybe on the next date she'll be more relaxed. It is hard when you are just getting to know each other. Make sure you ring her, and ask her out again. Movies are always an awkward way to spend a first date. Good luck
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (4 June 2011):
HI
sounds like she was really nervous. Sometimes when a girl likes a boy so much they get all butterflies in their stomach ( which is probally why she was holding hers ) lol and when we get like that, we find it hard to think of anything to talk about, in case we end up talking like a blubbering fool :)
Also she may have not wanted to do the arm round the shoulder thing in the pictures, because its early days yet. Why dont you take her ice skating? good way of breaking the ice so to speak, that way you can hold her hand as your both skating, and it will be fun. But nervous yes I think she is . x
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