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writes: Hi I hope you might be able to help.I met my girlfriend last April, the first months were quite hard as she was still hung up on her ex from the uk, in fact I found out recently that for the first two months she was still asking him to give their relationship another go.Our relationship has moved very fast, in june she still wanted to be with her ex and in july she fell pregnant with my baby, she said she had moved on from her previous relationship and wanted the baby especially as we are both 32. I'm very happy with us but I'm not so sure she feels the same and I think she still contacts her ex now and then!There are other issues too, neither of our families approve of the pregnancy and hardly talk to us which I know is hurting my girlfriend, she was also very sick with stress prior to getting pregnant and had been taking anti depressants!Will our new arrival make our relationship stronger or widen the cracks that are already appearing?I'd really appreciate your advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2006): i found this randomly through google... i searched for "my girlfriend wants a baby".. another story eh :)
mate.. what the f*** are you doing? seriously? she's obviously still on this other guy, why are u so adamant that this has to happen? her family don't like it, your family dont like it. she's not the one man... deal with it :S
you didn't post this asking for honest opinions though, you posted knowing 2 things 1. most people who reply to this have never had a real relationship and still believe romantic comedies can come true, 2. you can brush off any opinion you don't like and only listen to the nice ones since they're all anonymous.
show some self respect and throw her away... what respect has she ever shown you? beggin her ex to come back? do you realise how pathetic you seem to the rest of the real world?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2005): Poor hun, you must feel very alone.When long term relationships split, it is usually the woman who hankers after the ex... not a 100% statistic, I am sure but a fairly good chance.I have been divorced from my ex for 5yrs now. I remarried, (Have kids from previous) but it has been really hard to let go of the past. I have to admit that I still miss him but wouldn't go back with him now... in the beginning, yes, I probably would have done... I wouldn't have trusted him, nor would the relationship I hankered for, ever be the same again. I was clutching at straws... still am at times.The baby arrival will be a happy event for you. It is a special time for you both to have together - a new life, a new start. I am sure that this beautiful time will seal your relationship once and for all. I can't promise that she won't think of her ex, but she will, in time, think differently about him. Think of it as a grieving process. Time heals. Make her feel special, enjoy the pregnancy together and the birth of new life will touch you both as a couple... nothing can take that away from you... not even an ex.{{{{HUGS}}}} for your future as a dad and a wonderful husband/partner!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2005): My advice is that I have concerns you may be thinking that if the baby comes along that everything will be fine. No, it won't. It will still be there. You don't want the baby to suffer this mess when it is older. Sort it before it is too late.
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