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writes: Hi,I like this 35 year old man and I am 18 years old.I know he likes me too,but I am not sure it is right for me to like him.I mean there is a 17 year age difference and he is good friends with my dad.I want to get togather with him but I don't know how to tell him or if I should just forget the whole thing.Help me please Reply to this Question
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reader, Ms. Tanya +, writes (4 September 2006):
 Well, that's a big deal, but if your in love with this man and your sure he likes you to, I think you should tell him. It's up to you to talk to your Dad before hand or not.. I don't know your Dad so I really can't say weather it would be a good idea or not. your 18 so age officially doesn't matter now, imo.I'm rooting for ya hun!~Ms. Tanya
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reader, bonym  +, writes (2 September 2006):
 I agree with the others, its wise to speak to your father first before you do anything because at least if he is ok with it, that is one less thing to fret about. You are an adult so there is no issue in my view reagrding age, but you need to weigh up the pros and cons. Good luck. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): I always like to say to women your age...enjoy life, date a variety of people your own age..have fun! But, you are 18 years old, a young adult and you can choose whomever you want to date. Whether this will work will in the end, will come down to maturity and intellectual compatibility on both parts of the individuals involved. So as Malyce and Helpful Girl suggested, before you make any move, I would definitely talk to your Dad and see what his take is on all this. Get Mom's opinion on this, as well. I don't know how mature you are but I have met 18 years olds females that have a good moral and mature worldview, much more so than some 40 plus women I know. So it can work but you need to find out where he sits, and what his expectations are. Is he ready for a family? Is he the type of man that would respect you and treat you as an equal? He's been Dad's good friend and has he simply regarded you as his friend's kid all this while. Is he past all that? Also, you have to be careful, sometimes older partners can tend to be the more dominant, coercive partner in a relationship and you don't want that, dear.
Please be aware though, you are on the cusp of making your own way in the world. I sincerely hope you empower your life as an independent, strong woman by going for the career, travel, education. I would hate to see you 5 years down the road regretting what you have missed, hun. To find love with a man this age, you would need to find out if he would be supportive of that and would respect the fact that you aren't going to settle down. All will depend on how you two fit together, in the generational sense. And remember, your whole outlook and attitudes about life/love will undergo dramatic changes in the next few years. Life truely is a growing experience and even more so, at your age. So, just go slowly. Talk to Dad. Your Father knows this guy very, very well. He'll be able to give you some proper and sound advice. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2006): How strong is your relationship with Dad? I agree with asking your Dad what he thinks.
Does 35 year old perv..I mean man feel the same towards you?
Anyways...ever heard of Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones? Harrison Ford and Calista Flockhart? George Clooney and his younger women?
Do you see the 35 yr old like another Daddy?
Just be careful Sweetie, you are a very young woman and he is a well seasoned male.
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