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writes:There have been some questions for advice from women who were pregnant from married men. How did things work out for you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2009): Hi OP! I'm confused too with the answers. All I'm reading from your original question is that you're interested in how these women solved their problem. Sounds like they have moved on, that is, they're no longer reading the forum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): maybe you should try anger management therapy. all this pent up anger directed at his wife is doing you no good. it can actually harm you. why are you not upset at your married lover. after all you and him have been cheating on his wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm very confused myself as to why no one is answering the question I asked. No anger hear just aggravation at how I asked a simple question for the women who visit this forum who've been in that situation and I've gotten unsolicited advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): I am confused by the OPs attack. what exactly do you want to hear. instead of just posting the original 3 liner maybe you should provide more details about your affair and whats with this pregnancy story?? and why are YOU so angry and spitting venom. and why are you being so rude in your response? what did HIS wife do to you? you are obviously pissed at his wife and why are you so cryptic?? instead of being angry at us why don't you put your life into perspective (whatever this may be) and try try solving your "situation" yourself.
very confused by your attack!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst of all, I'm not pregnant and don't plan to be. Second of all, I asked for updates from the women who came on here with this problem. I know my business and my situation, I don't need advice from anyone who doesn't.
So many people on this forum are quick to judge. Probably because you have been cheated on and bitter. If a man loves you, he wouldn't cheat, period. Many women like to blame the other woman because that keeps her from dealing with the reality that the husband went out seeking something that was lacking at home whether it be sex, conversation, excitement or whatever.
I tend not to judge when I come across these posts because sometimes the marriage starts based on deceit. A woman who intentionally gets pregnant and the man feels a sense of obligation to marry her. That's not based on love. Also, for all you know, the "wife" could be the result of an affair from an earlier marriage he had. In that case, I would say the current affair is the current wife's karma coming back.
The point is, don't judge other people.As much as people hate to admit it, marriages do end many times for different reasons. Personally, I know many marriages that have crumbled after an affair and the men are still with the women they cheated on their wives with.
Now, as stated in the original post, any experiences from women who have been in that situation would be appreciated.
Thank You
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst of all, I'm not pregnant and don't plan to be. Second of all, I asked for updates from the women who came on here with this problem. I know my business and my situation, I don't need advice from anyone who doesn't.
So many people on this forum are quick to judge. Probably because you have been cheated on and bitter. If a man loves you, he wouldn't cheat, period. Many women like to blame the other woman because that keeps her from dealing with the reality that the husband went out seeking something that was lacking at home whether it be sex, conversation, excitement or whatever.
I tend not to judge when I come across these posts because sometimes the marriage starts based on deceit. A woman who intentionally gets pregnant and the man feels a sense of obligation to marry her. That's not based on love. Also, for all you know, the "wife" could be the result of an affair from an earlier marriage he had. In that case, I would say the current affair is the current wife's karma coming back.
The point is, don't judge other people.As much as people hate to admit it, marriages do end many times for different reasons. Personally, I know many marriages that have crumbled after an affair and the men are still with the women they cheated on their wives with.
Now, as stated in the original post, any experiences from women who have been in that situation would be appreciated.
Thank You
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): good answer caring guy.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 December 2009):
I know I'm a male, but a male's opinion might be useful here, because I think I know what the married man is going to do.
I think you need to sit down and look at your own life, because a married man rarely leaves his wife for another woman, and even if he does, statistics show that it doesn't work out 90% of the time. That might worry you, but please don't make the mistake of thinking he will come to you, because I don't think he will. I also think you're going to be under a huge amount of pressure to abort as well, since he probably won't want to keep it.
However, you now need to do what is right for you. It takes two to make a baby, but whether you keep it is up to you. Think very carefully about what you want from life. You may not get him, but you don't have to abort or anything like that. Look at your money? Can you afford to keep the baby? Have you got the time and inclination. You need to be able to raise it by yourself, because chances are he will not want anything to do with it. Be prepared for a long, hurtful time. But you must focus on yourself. And please stop the affair as well, because you're the one who will lose out most.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): abortion?
why are you trying to force this man into a relationship by deliberately falling pregnant. be careful. he may not stick around with you and your plan to finally get him will backfire.
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