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writes: What is the best way to get over someone whom you love so very much , but they have lost all love for you? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2009): you do the month detox relationship plan
week 1
let it all out
cry cry cry
scream cry
Do what you gotta do to drain this emotion out, because if you don't let it out now you will have it pinned up in you and eventually one day it will come out. Also use this raw emotion to clean your house or something preductive.
week 2
cry some more if you feel you need too.
watch some movies
begin a full "search and destroy" mission in your house.
you must take all that reminds you of that person or anything they gave you and throw it away, give it away, just put it out of sight. also you should have all contact severd with this person and delete numbers email whatever from memory, your computer, cell phone whatever girl. And as you do this decide what type of NEW person you want to become.
week 3
clean some more, but no more crying.
get out there with friends and devise a plan for becoming the new you. buy a new outfit something that makes you feel good not to sexy but a little and also elegant at the same time. get out and have some fun and start to wrap up who you want to be now. also think of a hobby.
week 4
Begin, if you have not already, to be the new you.
get active in your new hobby maybe its something like photography, running, school? whatever it is summerse yourself into that right away and remember who you are now.
you are a strong woman who doesn't look up, you keep your head held high and through all the heart break and suffering you have been through you made it through with your head held high and kept your dignity. You are a strong independent person who i must applaud and i am proud of you madam.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): im going thru this too only i'v 2kids to him... iv known for almost 2 years that he wasnt in love with me anymore but said nothing and it just got worse he startin treating me badly as he knew how much i loved him and i would have done anything to keep my family together.... 3mths ago was the last straw for me i caught him havin online relationships... secret email accounts etc.. i told him to pack his bags after 2 wks i was begging him to come back coz i loved him so much and missed him as did the kids but he wouldn't hear of it..at the time i was completely heart broken my weight went down to 7st 10lb i cried my eyes out day and nite for 1 n half mths... now 3mths on im delighted he didnt come back i realised i never deserved to be treated that way..i deserve to be loved back.. one person bein inlove doesnt work.. i now understand that by forgettin about him i am going in to the future where at some time wen i least expect it i will meet someone who will love me as much as i love them.. so cheer up u will meet someone else who truely loves you as much as you love them u will be happier xxx best of luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): hmm i through all my thoughts on this reply - might help - might not....
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-move-on-after-breaking-up.html
Very good luck,
Star.x.
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reader, Pringle21  +, writes (13 May 2009):
Take their number out of your phone, so you cannot call them when you are feeling down. Remove everything from around you that reminds you of them, put it in a box in a cupboard where you wont see it when you dont want too.
Listen to your body, you might want to sleep more, if you need to cry then do it. Respect yourself and if you need to talk, open up to your friends. Remind yourself that things will get better. If you have felt good about someone once before you can feel it again, about someone else in the future. Do the things that make you feel good that you couldnt or didnt do before. Do the simplest tiniest things that make you happy and before long you'll be filling every minute. Remember at the end of each day you are one day closer to feeling better. Take care, it will be ok xxx
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (13 May 2009):
 Hard answer to this guestion ... I am trying to find that on my own ...
I guess, you just need time to heal ... and to find someone new, that will show you love again and when you fall for this new person, you will forget about the other one.
I know you might think its not true, and believe me, I am there with you right now, but I think this is the truth ...
XOXO Lierin
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reader, bellaaddison +, writes (13 May 2009):
Time... I know it sounds cliche, but it's truly the only thing that works... you can help it along by staying busy, finding new intrests/hobbies, even dating someone new (sounds impossible, I know, but sometimes when you're distracted by another, you can forget alittle more easily). Surround yourself with people who care about you and that you can talk to anytime, day or night...
Remind yourself that you're a strong and independent woman and in TIME, your heart will begin to heal.
Take Care
Bella xoxo
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