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writes:I'm 15 years old, and I want to get myself a purity ring, but I'm not sure how to talk about it with my parents. I have never really talked to my mom about sex, and my dad is not exactly aproachable about the subject. I tried to tell my mom before that I found a promise ring for myself, for a promise I made to myself, but she didnt understand what I meant. I made the decision to wait to have sex until I was married when I was 9, and I'm absolutly sure that I am going to. The ring idea I have had since I started highschool last year, and I am sure about it.My parents aproval isnt necessary, I will get myself the ring with or without it. The only thing is I would like to explain it to them, and, if possible, have their aproval of it before I spend the money on the ring.If anyone has any suggestions about asking and explaing this to my mom and dad, it would be extremely appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2010): a ring is only symbolic - you don't really need to have one and you don't really need to tell your parents. Sure nice to have the symbolism to remind you and the parents to be behind you but sometimes i think putting too much pressure on yourself can have the opposite effect. I made a pledge too and got to 24 until i broke my pledge. I felt so awful and guilty and shameful ... i felt like i'd let myself and my family and everyone down. Yet it was a personal choice i had made, just like choosing to be celibate until marriage ... didn't really effect anyone but me however by inviting others into it then it left me open to their judgements. I'm happy now - wish i'd waited but i suppose that was the right time for me, its one decision that has helped formed a little bit of who i am today. So whether you commit to it until marriage or break the pledg, just remember its YOUR life ... be happy whatever and make the best of whatever happens whether planned or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Just wear it. If your parents ask, you calmly explain what the ring is and what it means to you.
Congratulations for your decision to keep virgin until marriage. Ignore the ones who make fun of you: they are the sad ones who'll never get (relationship after relationship) that the only logical way for a girl to be consistently happy is to find just one guy with a great personality and then marry him, keeping sex strictly between husband and wife. That way it won't be a pastime but a true act of love.
Get your high school diploma, after that your search for The One will start! Good luck to you and NEVER give up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2010): Well it's your body and your decision so they can't change your mind and they'll just have to understand. But, to be honest, i'm pretty sure they'd rather you wait to have sex til you're married than sleeping with every second dude you see! So I wouldn't worry too much and if they don't understand try and send them to a website or give them information about it. I'm sure there is plenty out there.
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