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writes:I am 21 years old and will be getting married in 11 days. I've lived in the same house my entire life and with the exception of my brother moving to Texas, my family has always been around. After the wedding I'm moving to Florida where my fiance has lived for a year now. His job pays better and my job will give me a raise if I work down there instead, so it just made more sence to go there. I'm scared to go, and I know I'll really miss my family. Anyways, I guess I'm just asking if anyone can give me some good advice on how to deal with this a little better?
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reader, Blod  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 There's no question that this is a big step for you, and it isn't going to be easy. My best advice would be to take one day at a time. Remember that getting married is a happy occasion, and moving out comes as a part of that for you. Don't expect things to run smoothly and don't expect to settle somewhere else at once.
Take things slowly, as it'll take time. A lot of people are scared before they first move out but people get through it. You'll find independence, you'll find out who you are and discover a whole new world. Take things as they come. You'll have your husband, and by the sounds of it, your job sounds pretty promising for you too. Keep in touch with your family, but also don't become dependent on those you know already. It's important to push yourself to meet new people and socialize. Like I said, it won't be easy but it's a massive step in your life. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, it'll come with time.
All the best.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (20 December 2010):
Just keep in contact with your family often. It's normal to get homesick. When I moved away from my parents at first, I got pretty homesick. Just keep in mind that over time the feeling will pass. Call them when you miss them and keep yourself involved in other things. Your job and your husband of course. But also make sure to make some friends at work or something. If all you have is your husband and no one else around in a new place, it makes you miss home even more.
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