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writes:One of my friends moved out to another state for a job. He proposed to his girlfriend of two years, but after living with him for 2-3 months she decided she wasnt happy and she moved back out here. When she came back she told me she liked me and had for a long time. I have feelings for her as well. She has also told me that she didnt have feelings for him for a long time but she only stayed with him so she could see me. She has told him its over but he doesnt seem to get it. The only time I talk to him is on the computer, so we have lost touch since he moved out there. I want to see where it goes with her but do not want to hurt him at the same time. I think she feels the same way. Can someone please help me with this. I do not know what to do.
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reader, kutie0712 +, writes (10 October 2007):
Talk to your friend. Maybe he will understand. If he doesn't then friends are always more important than a relationship. Friends will always be there for you boyfriends and girlfriends may not
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): No, No, No. Choose your friends every time!
This girl has chose you second because her relationship didnt work out - afterall if she didnt like him would she have accepted the proposal? And then married someone she didnt actually like? She is telling you she has liked you for ages to get you onside and play with your feelings.
Then there is that you will be hurting your friend, its like an unwritten rule between friends that ex's are off limits. How would you feel in his shoes, he loved her enough to want to marry her! If he went for an ex of your that you still cared dearly about wouldn't it hurt?
Sorry to be the one to put a downer on it but I really think this girl will take you for a fool.
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (9 October 2007):
 Ask her out.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (9 October 2007):
With him gone I think it is OK to take her as your gf.
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