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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello,I am experiencing a problem. I get mad way too easily. My girlfriend, who I've been in a relationship for a month, had a fling with a guy for about 6 months, they had sex, etc.. the whole ordeal. It all stopped when I came along, and she also stopped talking to him. Or so I thought. A few weeks ago, I saw her texting him. I immediately got furious, aggressive, and started to ignore her while she was sitting next to me. She told me he was nothing anymore, and that I shouldn't expect anything from it. She told me she only speaks him about once a month. I let it go, very slowly. It kept me awake, and my anger and frustration didn't let go of me. It eventually diminished. Eventually, 2 weeks ago, I caught her texting with him. I controlled myself, took some deep breaths. I told her it made me very mad, and that I think she shouldn't talk to him. She apologized many times. I felt like it was the last time I would experience this. I was wrong. 5 days ago, I caught her again, and I became so angry so quickly. It was haunting me the days after. She told me to get over it, that there is nothing to be afraid of. My friends say the same thing. It is so hard for me, I keep on thinking is she texting him etc.. I can't let go of it. How do I deal with this frustration? I don't want to get angry so quickly..
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (15 July 2012):
 Plus, I honestly do not know where your friends are coming from. This texting an ex thing must be something new for the younger generations. It would be no different than me spending time on the phone talking to my ex, which I won't do because he's my ex for a reason! I really know how you feel though...I just don't understand this.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (15 July 2012):
You tell your girlfriend that you do not like her texting her ex and if she is dating you, she needs to stop. I do not know why there is such an epidemic of this lately. Everyone is texting an ex. If your girlfriend likes you and respects you, she would put an end to this. There should be absolutely no reason why she is texting him. If she doesn't stop, you have the choice to move on and find someone who doesn't let her ex interfere in her relationships. If she tells you that nothing is going on, you tell her it doesn't matter if anything is going on or not...it bothers YOU and if she respects you she will stop.
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