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writes:I've been seeing this woman(41, I'm 40) for several months now. She always wants to have a porn flick on when we make love and I really hate it! For one thing, it's a distraction! I want to focus on her, not what some bimbo is doing to the mailman, etc.! Don't get me wrong, I loved watching porn before I met her, I mean, it's a decent subsitute when you're in between relationships, but now that I'm in one I barely watch it at all. I think my girlfriend is hot(!!!), I am absolutely crazy about her(!!!), and we have great sex (lingerie, blindfolds, lotions, virbrators, tying her up, taking photos of each other, you name it)! And yet she still wants to listen/watch porn while we're together! She says a) the sounds/video turns her on, b) she likes it because it can give her hints about things we can try. Now, both of those things are legitimate reasons people enjoy porn, I can understand that...But I can't understand what she thinks she needs to "learn"! Besides, I've seen porn, I've seen it all before! So it's just not that interesting to me. I'm far more interested in, and excited by, making her scream! ;) So...why does she still want to watch it?! It's driving me nuts! What am I missing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to gwendolyn, and all who replied!
My gf and I talked about it and worked it out: it's really the SOUNDS that turn her on...not the visuals! Well, I already knew she likes to be blindfolded soooo...Now I blindfold her, crank up the porn, and driver her absolutely nuts!!!!
Thanks again for valuable input!
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reader, gwendolyn R  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 Ok now your going more into detail. It sounds to me that she doesn't want more than just sex. If your looking for more than just sex I think it's time to find another one. Sure the sex makes it great but do you really want someone who has a cold heart?good luck with your fun i'm jelouse of you.
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reader, gwendolyn R +, writes (30 August 2009):
Ok now your going more into detail. It sounds to me that she doesn't want more than just sex. If your looking for more than I think it's time to find another one. Sure the sex makes it great but do you really want someone who has a cold heart?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, gwendolyn, for your answer. But if it was just a "little thing" then it wouldn't bother me! The point is when I look up from "going down" on her, it kills me to see her gazing at the couple going at it on the video instead of looking at me, the real live person who's right there with her! (Maybe I'm selfish for that, please tell me if I am.)I don't care if she watches it on her own time (when she's alone and pleasuring herself), but when she's with me I think I should have her attention, don't you? I mean: I'm not just there to make her orgasm (which she does by the way! 3, 4, 5 times at least!), I'm not a "just for sex" kind of man, I can love only one woman at a time, and I only want to make love to one woman at a time!The one thing I think that may be going on is that maybe, during our play time, she feels her libido fading and needs to 'rev' herself up through watching the porn? I mean, we usually go at it for 2-3 hours in one go, so maybe she just needs to reset her sex drive or something. If that's the case (and I'll ask her about that) then, heck, I'll just take a nap while she's watching her porn and let her wake me up once she's ready to go again! That could work! I do not, however, have any desire to watch it with her...that just turns me off.
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reader, gwendolyn R +, writes (30 August 2009):
Well Whats wrong with your awsome sex life just because you hate one little thing. think of other people That make it just dull. (yawns) and not to mention maybe you should ask her that it should be shwitched on every now and then.for example over the weekand.
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