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*alem_Graves
writes:Alright, I was hinted at by my girlfriend to clean the house.So, I did. All of her crap that was just hanging out around the house I heaped on her bed. (I learned a long time ago to never put away another person's things because they NEVER can find them and get crabby.) Anyway, she comes home and gets mad because I cleaned the house (At her request). WTH?Why is she angry at me for doing her bidding?I don't think she even cares that the house is clean.Should I dump her for being a selfish, psycho, Mind-f*ck? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2009): People a lot of times don't hear themselves and how stupid they sound yelling at the person who is helping them.For some live in Dramasville they love it and aren't happy unless they are fighting.I have dated them.If I do or don't fight they get mad.You could record her yelling and play it back to her.I think she would be surprised and then get mad again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2009): I have a friend who is a lesbian and she says there is ALWAYS A LOT OF DRAMA in lesbian relationships.
Look what she is pissed off about is she thinks you purposely showed her disrespect and yes passive agressively piled her shit on the bed just to show her how the house being messy was because her shit was not where it belonged.
Get off your high horse and stop blaming her for having issues. Own your part of the drama and promise to do better next time. K?
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reader, Salem_Graves +, writes (14 December 2009):
Salem_Graves is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt seems no matter how "Well" the discussion goes it almost always shows up agian in another of her tantrums.
I've caught her on the phone, telling someone how awful I am to be around and how Mean I am to her...
I have given her everything I could possibly share. My love, my time, my money (What little I have these days, every ounce of patience I can muster and I am exausted. I have come to the conclusion that she is a nut. And, I will just have to deal with this until I can afford to move. I just can't take the knife in my heart anymore.
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reader, Salem_Graves +, writes (14 December 2009):
Salem_Graves is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt seems no matter how "Well" the dicusion goes it almost always shows up agian in another of her tantrums.
I've caught her on the phone, telling someone how awful I am to be around and how Mean I am to her...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 December 2009):
 She's not angry about you cleaning the house. She's angry about something else. It may be rational, or from your last sentence, it may be completely irrational.
Can you have a calm and constructive discussion with her about anything or does it all degenerate into a fight?
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reader, Salem_Graves +, writes (9 December 2009):
Salem_Graves is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes tisha -1,
I even went as far as to clean the vents with a q-tip.
I just put her things on her bed because she has issues with other people losing her things.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (9 December 2009):
Did you scrub the toilet, sink, tub and/or shower, wash the bathroom floor, launder the towels? Did you vaccuum the entire house after dusting it? Did you scrub the kitchen sink, wipe down the cabinets, clean the countertop and the dirty dishes there, scrub the floor and wipe down the cooktop?
Or did you just take all her things that were around the house and pile them on her bed?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (9 December 2009):
When she said clean the house, she meant clean everything but her stuff. I'd talk to her and ask her why she's unhappy. Then she can tell you.
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